Why is this the case women ?

Question

Why when your not feeling sexual do some women get really upset claiming things like you don't find me attractive, you hate me, thought guy always wanted s*x huh? Yet when men want it we have to deal with the reject other wise, we are not respecting there sexuality and just treating them like s*x objects. Disrespectful if we demand it, yet b******s if we reject. so why on gods green earth the double standards? Are we not being used as s*x objects as well? goes both ways!!

Answer 1

You can either give in to sexism and "grow to tolerate it" or if a person puts you into that kind of situation call them out on it.

    Make it clear you view them in the wrong and demand an apology and "stick to your guns" about it.

    If the person trying to catch 22 you doesn't back down drop them there not worth the hassle.

Answer 2

We all get times when we don't feel like s*x and women might take it more personally when they are given a good excuse but they think that it's rejection.  Double standards and I wouldn't bother having s*x with someone who whinges when you feel too tired to have s*x.

Answer 3

I'm trying to make sense of your rambling rant here.

So, you believe there is a double standard whereby men cannot reject women sexually because the women get upset but women are allowed to reject men and men have to deal with it or get labelled nasty things.

Get over yourself and just think about it, instead of getting all worked up thinking you have it soooo hard as a man and the world is so unjust to men.

Women are constantly bombarded with messages about how to turn men on, that men are always up for s*x etc.  In the media men's sexuality is depicted as wild, uncontrollable.  Women, on the other hand, are treated as the "gatekeepers" - they have to be careful, are responsible for controlling male sexuality or deal with the consequences.  Of course, this is not entirely the right messages - men CAN control their urges and of course sometimes men just aren't in the mood - but this isn't the messages women receive.

So, when a girl gets rejected by her guy she takes it personally - she isn't doing it right (as the magazines teach her), he must be really turned off by her if he doesn't want it when clearly guys are always up for it.  Thus, it is stereotypical media portrayals which end up with women thinking these kind of things.

To understand why women react the way they do when they turn down your advances, i will give you some advice.  Treat your women with respect, make her feel special, make her feel you love her at all times and not just when you are in the mood for some rumpy pumpy.  That way, a girl will NEVER accuse you of treating her like a s*x object or being disrespectful.  If a girl ever says that to you it is sending out a clear message that she doesn't feel appreciated, she doesn't feel loved and romanced - a sure fire way to turn a girl off completely.  Girls get turned on when they are treated well, turned off when they feel they are only useful for one thing - s*x.

So instead of bitching about the so called "double standard", why don't you just start treating women better....also, a little communication about WHY you don't feel up for it sometimes (such as telling her yes, you do find her attractive but ur tired/sometimes just want to hang out together) will do the trick.

Chill!

Answer 4

Friend, double standards with women are alive and well. Ironically, not only is this fact sexist, but you're dismissed and mocked as male for pointing it out. Sexism twice over.

(Funny how it's PC to treat men like garbage while complaining how poorly women were treated in the past.)  

Answer 5

I'm not sure.

But it does sound like you're not getting any at all.

Change of toothpaste, maybe?

Cheers :-)

Answer 6

because guys always want s*x and when girl want it their going through PMS.

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Answer 7

Interesting for asking about this behaviour - some have tried to marginalise your observation of a typical female double standard.

Remember men are at all times ready for and wanting s*x. We are always thinking about it. Now that we know we are dealing with someone like this - they now reject you giving you an 'excuse' (probably a reason), since its just an excuse they are obviously slighting your femininity, atractiveness, desireability ... etc (take your pick). In other words they think you are insulting them lol.

In short - they are wrong, they are heavily sexist. Call them out on it.

Now to render this correct - this cannot be said of all women. Plenty are bound to take "Im just too tired tonite" just fine.  

Answer 8

I think it has to do with a very old cultural dynamic that it's the woman's job to be desired and the man's to desire. Just as men can have way too much of their self-esteem invested in their performance during s*x, women can have way too much self-esteem invested in their ability to make a man want s*x. It's more frustration at themselves and they direct it at you, which isn't fair. Also there is the inherent frustration of unsatisfied desire. But that's what toys are for.

As for when women reject an advance from a man, I guess it's not considered something that would hurt your self-esteem like it does a woman's. This is probably more where the stereotype comes in, that men want s*x so much it becomes tiresome so a woman is more entitled to refuse? I'm just guessing here. I haven't thought about it much and still can't quite wrap my head around the "not wanting s*x when it's offered" thing. I'm usually pretty well up for it.

Answer 9

I know. Now a days the girls are so self conscious. If my boyfriend said "You think my d**k is small, you think I'm too chubby" I'd break up with him immediately.

Answer 10

Psst, you can't question them.  Crabbie patties SpongBob, here comes the thought police..."Uh who me?"  Yes Commrade, I am politically correct...

Ok where was I?  The answer is hormones and lack of shopping.  Us men have hormones and "periods" too.  Though different ones where we are b*tchy!  Good luck mate.    

Answer 11

Women are not logical creatures. They have  a childlike grasp of how the world works.

I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about what's going in their heads.

Answer 12

troll alert, someone who thinks they are Tracey number 2 is stalking the joint, watch out for the troll!!

as for the question, lets just say women are complex, and its not easy for a girl to explain all that goes on with her

Answer 13

Perhaps because many boys/men talk constantly about how they are always up for s*x some girls/women get a little confused when their boyfriends AREN'T always up for s*x. The only conclusion to come to is that the boys/men in question don't find the girl/woman attractive.