Why is wrong with me???

Question

I am a 24 year old woman who has been through quite a bit of stuff (we all have). I have had horrible abusive relationships and been raped etc. I am in a relationship now, we just had a baby, but he hits me about every two weeks, now I know it's wrong and I should leave but this is as stable as ive been in years. My son loves his daddy, and he has never laid a hand on him. I would also feel so guilty if I took my son away from his daddy. I do think that sometimes I set him off, I know sometimes I should just shut up, but I'm hard headed. We have been together since we were 18. Were both 24 now. Whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

It sound like you have low self esteem and this is what your husbands wants of you. Are you working. If not, then get a job so that you can save your money  just in case you have to get out because sooner or later the beating will get worse. and sooner or later he will also start to abuse your son. I feel so sorry for you because you are trapped. Stop making excuses for this man by saying that you make him abuse you.

Answer 2

Nothing is wrong with you. He just needs to learn to control his anger. Sit down with him and tell him you are not going to put up with the hitting any longer and would leave if it doesn't stop. Ask him to get counselling. And do leave if the hitting doesn't stop.  

Answer 3

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!

ONLY FAGGOTS AND COWARDS HIT WOMAN!

LEAVE NOW!

THERE IS NO LOVE WORTH BEING BEATEN OVER.

THIS GUY IS SICK AND NEEDS HELP!

SO DO YOU!

GET IT!

NOW!

Answer 4

Nothing i think you shoud leave him yes its horrible to seperate your son from his dad but, ask yourself do you want your son to grow up and be like you husband hitting and raping?

Answer 5

well i'm a guy and i think if any guy hits a woman then that girl should leave the moment he does that cos as soon as a guy hits a woman well it wont stop now i'm only 22 but i've been with my wife for 3 years

she's a bit older then me and she has been in the same abusive relationship and she stayed with him for 8 years and it never stoppeduntill she lefted and even now she can't stan fighting.

Answer 6

it doesn't really sound like there's anything wrong with you, i would get him anger management

Answer 7

Your problem is that you think that he'll change

& that you think your asking for it.

leave him he's a coward.

your son doesn't deserve that scum as a father.

do you really think your son would still love & admire him if he found out

(once he is older to comprehend)

Get out while you can

the longer you stay the worse it'll get.

no don't sit and talk to him he might get upset and hit you

or take off with your son.

just leave !

Answer 8

I would suggest sitting down and talking to one another and find out what bugs him, if you still can't come to an agreement or he still hits you, i would suggest getting help. I hope this helped you,

john

Answer 9

honestly think of your child........

if he hits you then he probably wont hold back when it comes to the kid.

dont let him get away with such disgusting behaviour. tell some one trusted and find a way for you and your son to leave him.