Why isn't the s*x good?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I was a virgin when we met at age 17...I am 20 now and I feel like we haven't has amazing s*x really...I have nothing to compare it to but I feel like it could probably be better...we have s*x less and less now and I am never really excited about it. What could improve this? I really do love him and our relationship is great other than that.

Answer 1

ask him to try some new positions

Answer 2

Try to spice things up for urself. Maybe rent a couple of p**n movies I know it sounds weird but maybe u can find a way to help u get turned on about s*x, u need to find out what gives u pleasure so u can show ur boyfriend and u can begin to start enjoying urselves.

Answer 3

s*x is like this after many years of being with one person.

This is why people marry so that you don't spend your whole life jumping from p***s to p***s.

Relationships are MORE than just having great s*x...what would happen if the love of your life had an accident and made him a quadriplegic - like Christopher Reeves, he couldn't have s*x with his wife for the last 7 years of his life.

Would you like to improve your s*x life?  Get a new partner.  Seriously, you're not married - what do you care?

s*x toys and s*x books you might read - will get old and boring too sooner or later.

Other than that - you might have grown up and out of this relationship.  

Answer 4

It is the same with me and my husband. I would suggest using s*x toys to add some fun factor in. It helps me and I hope it works for you too =)

Answer 5

I don't wanna make anyone mad by saying this but.There is alot of fun out there and maybe you need to explore?Or if you wanna stay with him talk to him and experiment try new things.

Answer 6

Well in my experience it took me learning about how my body works myself before I was able to have a good s*x life with my husband.  This took about six months but you have to know what works for you or what doesn't work then you can communicate that to your boyfriend.  Maybe your boyfriend too was inexperienced.  I can tell you that it is in your 30's when you will really be your best sexually - I think it is 19 for a male so there is this big gap.  If you are planning on marrying this fella then I would try to sort this out with honest communication.

Answer 7

Unfortunately s*x got you into this relationship...s*x tricks people into thinking "this is the one". Better talk to him.  

Answer 8

the longer you love him the more it grows you tend to notice it more than s*x. the longer you with him the greedy you grow so the stuff u have had seems nothing.  you need a stronger dose and unfortunately he can't match that.

Answer 9

Maybe he just sucks at s*x, and not in a good way.

Answer 10

Get some books and get educated on positions. There is a book called tickle his pickle i liked and a book called the couples guild to love and s*x which is awesome

Answer 11

Just so you know...there is nothing wrong with you or your relationship. It is know that s*x and s*x drives decrease with time. I know how you feel i was in the same position as you were and my relationship lasted 4 1/2 years we wanted to be with each other forever we knew each other since the 5th grade, always liked each other, made it official in high school lasted a while, but it didn't last and I know that my relationship isn't like everyone elses and I don't want you to compare bc there were lots of circumstances that led us to not work out but try doing some research. If you really TRULY love him it will work out. There is always hope, but you need to search within yourself. Sometimes (not always and I'm not saying that this is the case) s*x is one of the first things to go in a relationship. Don't be afraid to try new things, but always be true to yourself first! If you wanna talk more feel free to email me: [e-mail]  

Answer 12

You guy dont know how to get each other off. Communicate during s*x.

Answer 13

This is completely normal.

Its just lack of experience, which can be easily resolved through communication and educating yourself on what pleases you.

Knowing what pleases you and communicating that to your boyfriend is a good beginning.

Answer 14

Read some books on sexual positions and how to act s**y.  Your s*x life will get boring, if you don't put any effort into it.  You and your bf need to liven it up, or that spark will die.

Answer 15

well u have to flirt a lot and make him want u more than anything. make sure he's not cheating on u. s*x at first or 2 is great it depends if u were ready for it at first b/c the 1 time of s*x  is the greatest thing that means u were meant to be together or just to show the love. go out often to places for ex. park, beach, lake, show him that u care so much for him. it really helps if both of you are playfulness. always laugh together.try too spice it up a little.they like good humor.especially meals and entertainment.

Mature love is the type of love you see in long-term . When you are together because you want to be together and not because you need to be with one another, you have a mature love.

Signs of mature love include acceptance, emotional support, commitment, calmness, respect, caring, kindness, friendship, and consideration.

Answer 16

try different positions or something.

make it fun, wear something s**y, use whipped cream or something.

just try different stuff.

i don't have much experenice either. my boyfriend is my 1st too.

Answer 17

You lost that lovin feelin!  Or so the song goes!  The both of you need to explore some new ideas in bed.  Try role playing.  You can dress up as an easy cheerleader and he can put a football jersey on and take it from there!  New sexual positions should also be tried.  He could lift up your cheerleader skirt which you would be wearing no underwear and he could berry his face in your _ss and have some lunch!  Stuff like that. You know!!