Why keep it a secret from me :(?

Question

the guy i liked and who liked me is now engaged but i didnt hear about his engagement from him i heard it from his best friend. I got upset but at the same time i was wondering if the guy i like was ever going to tell me about his engagement himself, he never did. One day i chatted to him and it just slipped out of my mouth 'congratulations on your engagement'. The next day he got angry at his best friend he said ' why did you tell her i was engaged why are you telling everyone that i am engaged why?' and then his best friend got angry with me for letting that slip out but we are ok now, but what i dont understand is why hide it? why hide his engagement from me? Its not something you hide is it? unless someone secretly got engaged which he didnt his parents arranged it , it was an arranged marriage

Answer 1

He sounds like a player to me. What a rat

Answer 2

He might be afraid of the situation, that if you know about his engagement, you might leave him. Hopefully he is trying to continue the friendship with you in a clean manner. Better you talk to him and make him feel comfortable and show him that you are happy for him.

Answer 3

well. he could be a player OR he was considering your feelings, considering it might hurt you to find out, and he was waiting for the right time to tell you and he got mad at his best friend, because he wanted to tell you when the time is right.

Answer 4

he probably doesnt want an arranged marriage an was going to see if you an him would work if it worked out he probably would of told his parents that he doesnt want an arranged marraige. i feel sorry for him he probably realy liked you an didnt want to hurt you by tellin u that hes getting forced to marry. give him a chance an look out for him he probably has a lot to handle good luck x

Answer 5

Maybe they were going to announce their engagement as a couple. I would not care if my x got engaged and didn't tell me.

Answer 6

well, for a start he probably fancied you...but whatever the reason is...he shouldn't hide it from a person...but the thing is he never really said to you that he liked you or was serious with you anyways, so that gives him the rite to do as he pleases...u din voice out neither did he abt the feelings you had abt each other...

Answer 7

First of all, he doesn't owe you anything. It's not an oblagation to tell to his ex-flings that he's engaged.

Besides, a marriage is something very private in between two people and two families and there is no room for jealous, noisey ex-girlfriends.

Get over yourself

Answer 8

1) it really has nothing to do with you

2) he isn't obliged to advertise his engagement to all and sundry

3) he probably knew you'd get huffy and upset

Answer 9

I suspect he was trying to have you on the side.

Answer 10

I agree, he wants to pretend he's single and keep you dangling.

Answer 11

There are many reasons...

maybe they wanted to announce together as a family/couple

maybe he was hoping it would be canceled

maybe he wanted to keep you dangling and keep you on the side.

What country are you from? I'm guessing India? If he's engaged, then just stay away from him. You don't want to messing with a married man

Answer 12

He's probably not too happy about it, and was actually hoping to keep it 'out of sight, out of mind'. He probably likes you more than the girl he's been set up with, but I wouldn't keep your hopes up too much, cause most people in arranged marriages DO get married, to honor their family.

Unless he plans to be disowned, and hated by his family, he won't have much to offer you, aside from being the 'other girl'.

Do yourself (and your heart) a favor and cut any romantic attatchments you might have with him, and keep it strictly friends-only.

Good Luck....

Answer 13

He didn't want you to know, becasue he wanted to keep leading you on, not a guy you should be worried about, arranged or not, clearly he is going along with it and he's engaged and shouldn't do that to you or his fiance. Not a good guy!

Answer 14

Dude it is very simple...either he didn't want you to get hurt as u both like each other...or he had some other plans in his mind for u....hope u understand.....m say this cos the way he got angry on his frnd was not good...

Answer 15

A secret shared isn't a secret.

Answer 16

One, if it was a secret, his best friend had no business telling anyone.  That is not your fault and you have no reason to apologize for "letting it slip."  The only 2 people at fault?  the groom and his best friend. Second, who really cares if he's getting married?

Don't dwell over this person.  He's not worth it. If he is hiding his engagement to his bride to be, would you really wanna date someone like that?  

I probably wouldn't have mentioned that I knew about the engagement BUT, who reaslly cares and you're not to blame for anything.  Let those 2 stupid, moronic guys deal with their own mess.  Obviously they both lack maturity.

It seems to me the buck is getting passed.  The friend let a "secret" slip and wanted to blame YOU so he wouldn't be at fault.  The groom wanted to blame his friend so HE wouldn't be at fault but really, if the groom didn't want anyone to know, he shouldn't have opened his big mouth!  Those are 2 losers.  Don't waste your time and move on.

Answer 17

Blunt a wedding is a private thing between the families? REALLY??? Since when has an engagement or a wedding been private? They have shows about them, they have discussion boards about them... weddings are not private

and I think if this guy doesn't want anyone to know he's engaged then he doesn't want to be engaged.