Why kids tend to bully people who are different?

Question

seems to me that people tend to bully those who are different.

i am wondering. why is that? why such a "gene"? what good does it bring to our development as a whole?

Answer 1

to make em change

Answer 2

Little children do this, because they are harsh and don't understand life.  They don't understand how people can be different; which results into the lack of learning at such a young age.

Answer 3

i know i think its unfair they mabey gt jealous of them

Answer 4

Kids sometimes bully people who are different simply because they don't understand why they're different. Or maybe it's some primeval survival mechanism, whereby all members of the pack must work together to survive, therefore anybody different poses a threat to the carefully ordered structure of the society and must be cast out...or maybe just because they can.

Answer 5

cause they know the one they are picking on wont do nothing back. i been there. they thought i was completely stupid! looking back, i was bigger than them for ignoring them and walking away. they didnt get the complete satisfaction they wanted.

Answer 6

maybe because they hear it from their parents. Perhaps their parents or the televion itself point out the differences in regard to races, fat people and slim people, people with mental incapacities.

Answer 7

Fear motivates the physically strong to "test" those who do not fit in.   It's actually a good thing.  If there were no bullies,  those who didn't fit in would never be given a chance to prove themselves worthy.  The mainstream would stagnate.  The whole would never develop without bullies.  

Bullies provide a means to filter out the dangerous, and initiate the helpful.  

Of course, it doesn't always work out; but, above all, the whole must develop.  Stagnation = Death.

Answer 8

Bullies only pick on other people because they feel as if they are missing something in their lives that other peole have. Jealousy is the main reason why people bully. People like that though always end up being lonely later in life because of the way they are. In a way they deserve it.

Answer 9

I think people bully people who are different cos they feel inadequate in some way themselves

Answer 10

My son was bullied for 2 years and ignored it [whilst at home he was sad and agressive]. He is epileptic and, yes, I suppose different as he is very academic, sensitive and creative and not in the least sporty like his peers.

He has a twin sister who is strong willed who has never been bullied.

Answer 11

Here's my opinion.  Kids are pretty much prototypes for what the people will be like as adults.  Not all kids bully.  But the ones that do are more likely to be boorish adults.

It comes down to an underlying lack of self-confidence in my opinion.  They want to draw attention away from their own inadaquacies by picking on other people.

Answer 12

Because bullies are jealous that the "different" people have their own style (Y).

They arent satisfied with their lifes and don't except other peoples flaws as they are uncomfortable with their own.

They know they cant be perfect so they want to make sure noone else can be.

:)

Answer 13

That is the easy assumption, yes.

Most bullies have very high images of themselves. They think nothing of going to the weakest members of the "group" and destroying them or ridiculing them. They offer the least resistance. Unfortunately, it cannot be like an 80s teen movie where the nerd fights back and wins the respect of the bully. The bully has knives, guns, and information at his disposal that can now run the bullied into suicide.

It depends on those that do bully and their reasons. We must build the bullied up, of course, but the bulliers may end up in serious trouble later on, even obtaining antisocial personality disorder -- one step away from a serial killer, my colleagues would say.

Answer 14

A child or adult bullies others because they are getting something out of it - a payoff!

Their payoff can be that making others feel bad makes them feel superior.

Read Kate Cohen-Posey,auther of How to handle Bullies,Teasers and Other Meanies...A must read for parents and school authorities.

The psychological effects of bullying can be lasting.

Research shows that bullying is the thing that adults remember as the most tramautic thing that happened to them as children!

Answer 15

I think they feel it makes them look stronger.  I hope this is reported.

Answer 16

If you look at very young children they don't bully, they are very accepting actually. It's not til they reach school that it starts. I think it's the way society is. They pick it up from adults, television, etc. But before school they are in a more controlling environment. At school they start learning properly and pick up on bad things as well as good.

Answer 17

Bullies, as has already been said, usually have very low self esteem, some even suffering bullying at home by a sibling or even a parent. They, in turn need to feel power and turn to bullying which fills this need.

They tend to pick on kids who are different in some way as it can appear as a weakness and any weakness is an opportunity for a prospective bully to start his or her vile treatment.