Why love marriage not a success?

Question

Why love marriage not a success?

Answer 1

who told you.....

Answer 2

actually ur question is wrong but it also depends on the lovers when they dont have guts to get married why should they love?

Answer 3

not all love marriages, it depends on the understanding of each other, even arrange marriages get failure, but the thing is, in arrange marriages you'll get family support from each other, but in love marriages no support at all, im not sure for all families but in india most parents doesnt support love marriages.

Answer 4

It's more successful than arranged marriages. Unhappy people in arranged marriages don't divorce because of the shame that is brought upon the families etc. There are too many obligations to stay together under such a scheme, community, pride and family related obligations... Does that make it successful? Maybe from the outside...

Answer 5

the most important and intresting that a boy and girl judge in is he good look in his outer apperence in 90% of the case....only 10% care about the inner heart...they all succed in life only the remaining will fail when comes to love marriage....this is the fact..

a person inner look is more importamt than how he look outer..look..

Answer 6

During love the life is selfless one would live for the otherperson, do things for the other person, ajust, sacrifice, etcs...but after marriage the person expects exactly the vice-versa so the problem.

Answer 7

not all dear

Answer 8

You cannot generalise it but yes most love marriages are unsuccessful. It is simply because the couples lose respect for each other before they get married.  

Answer 9

Success of married life has nothing to do with the way one got married. After wedding ceremony it becomes as dead as only a history. Only day-to -day attitudes make the life success or failure. Mutual trust, commitment, politeness, positive attitude, sweetness, softness, kindness, co-operation, sincerity to relation, God fearing behaviour , tolerance to non serious & small matters, learning from each other daily, budget making, expenditure control, constant love & affection & regular sex9it is as necessary as regular food at least once in 3 days compulsorily) reaching o****m surely makes life wonderfully successful, undoubtedly. I've already talked a lot on this earliear. You can read at my profile.  

Answer 10

well,real life is much tougher than what we think while we dream all that in love so when they face it they just cant stand together

Answer 11

while they love..they do not care for anything..money..character..family..anyt... just want to enjoy life..once they are married..they start thinking abt the future...so obviously both start to fight with each other..

Answer 12

There is no accurate survey data on this. Arrange marriages too become unsuccess. All depends upon individual adjustments. When one speaks other has to listen, if both speak the fight is inevitable.

Answer 13

My love marriage is always a success, in fact in my whole family mine is best one, but yes, love marriage is a difficult one, as in love marriage the relatives and parents, they never help you later, they only say you did your own choice, we never liked him.. in mine too, it was the case, but remember this..marriage is like a closed box, till after 1 year of marriage, after one year you come to know, if it was a correct decision or not...be it a love marriage or arranged.

Answer 14

First of all it is not true in all cases.

  It is ma8inly because of misunder standings& egoism.

Answer 15

nobody say about the reason behind unsuccessful of love marriage but few reason are - ego clashes, misunderstanding, likes and dislikes, dominating each other, comparison with others.

Answer 16

not only love marriages ,but also arranged marriages are failed.this is depeniding on the couples mentalities.

Answer 17

This question is not really specific enough, because you generalize.

I could post a similar question asking, “Why does arranged marriage fail?”

The matter is that certain love marriages and certain arranged marriages do not work out and people either live a life full of disgrace because they do not want to separate or they divorce and get a new chance.

Why do some marriages fail?

Well, normally it’s because there are two very different characters which do not adapt to each other, maybe they are to self concerned, stubborn, selfish, too traditional to accept any changes… whatever, they are not able to reach the “golden way in the middle”.

I call it like this, because a marriage does not mean that your partner is your property, neither that you will always be the one to decide what will be done and what not… marriage means to give in and living and let live. As soon as one partner starts to demand and demand and demand and gives nothing back to the other the marriage is in danger.

Why does even a marriage where both partners are really in love with each other fail?

Well, the reason is not the lack of love between them; it’s simply that their love does not survive the day-to-day stuff.

Not because love is not strong enough, but because they think that love can do with everything and that nothing else is required in life.

So as soon as they notice how hard life can be they get frustrated and feel defrauded.

Most of the times these kinds of people simply are not mature enough, much too young and innocent and too selfish to give in and accept that life sometimes is adverse.

What is the answer?

Arranged marriage? No not at all, because it has the same success and failure percentage than love marriage.

And the tricky thing with arranged marriage is that they mostly fail because of the lack of love, patience and understanding between both partners.

There is no sentimental base, which holds the marriage together.

Maybe all other factors are very well for the couple but without love there is really nothing worth struggling for.

An arranged marriage is mostly not two persons untied in one, but one unit of 2 single persons.

Many arranged marriages survive such a long time due to the pressure both families put on the couple, but anyway many couple live their life mentally and emotionally apart from their partner.

And sooner or later it comes to the same end: Separation.

Of course there are many arranged marriages, which do succeed, and both partners do really love each other… but who gives you any guarantee that this will happen in your case.

I do not believe that anybody can learn to love somebody.

You love somebody or do not love him / her.

Of course you can fall in love with your “arranged partner” – why not?

But for the same reason there is no point to thing that a love marriage does have a higher failure rate than an arranged one.

Love does not survive if the partners are immature and do not want to face all day life in general.

And without love what do we have? Nothing at all. Love is the only motor that makes me go up in the morning and face all days’ life… because I know that I love my husband and my daughter and that they do love me back the same way.

Just think about this and post the question again…

Answer 18

Because our expectaions are high in this case. We do not change with the lasp of time and find the same atmosphere or attitute of pre marriage, which is not possible after marriage.