Why married women don´t want to have s*x as much as they did when they were as girlfriends?

Question

I have been married for 12 years and i want to spark my marriage, do you have a tip. By the way...i am good in bed, it is just that my wife is not as horny as i am...LOL

Answer 1

I don't think it's her s*x drive. What alot of men fail to realize is that women are not visual creatures, and it takes more that a nibble on the neck to make us want it....FROM YOU!

I'm almost willing to bet that she is using her little electric friend or her shower head to satisfy her needs. Are you doing things OUTSIDE of the bedroom to stimulate her? Taking her for walks? Making romantic gestures throughout the day? Not just when you're horny. Women need to feel special ALL the time. When we feel our simple needs are being neglected, we tend to turn off our senses to our husbands. Do something with her she loves. Make her breakfast. The simplest gestures can go the longest way. Don't just expect to do these things for her one night as 'fore-play'. They must be an everyday part of life. Take out the trash without her having to ask. Put your own laundry away, Rinse your dish before you put it in the sink. I am telling you the truth in saying these things more than anything will put her in the mood.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Maybe there are children and chores involved. When you are courting you are excited to see each other. When you are married for 12 years its just like any other day. You find a comfort level. My husand and I find that we get tired and just go to bed after our son is asleep. Or we drink wine and watch TV. Lately we've made a pact with each other to have s*x every day no matter how tired we are. Our moods are much better and it makes us want to have more s*x.

Try giving your wife wonderful kisses and then walk away. Don't always have it end in s*x. Just be affectionate and let it be. Over time she will appreciate your touch and not think "oh he wants s*x"

Good luck

Answer 3

My husband and I have s*x more than before we were married.  He is more loving, caring and romantic as well..not just on one night, but all the time.  It is like he loves me more.   I think there is a correlation.

Answer 4

Why married men don't bring no more flowers or write no more love letters and get smelly assed feet and leave their rank socks lay on the floor only to stink up the entire room? When you figure that out, then you will have the answer to your question.

>>>>Cleo, glad you enjoyed LOL  :)

Answer 5

ha ha!! not always the situation! my husband used to always want it, now, he never EVER does...always too d**n tired!

Answer 6

That's always a long complicated answer. If you have kids, that's what's wrong! :) Maybe you should take her on vacation?  

Answer 7

Are you sharing the load of the chores and duties and child care around the house? That makes a big difference. When two people works as a team then they have time to play as a team!!!

Answer 8

the only thing that hes changed in our s*x life is that we wait for the babies to go to sleep.

Answer 9

There are plenty of times when I think about it before bed, but once I get to bed all I want to do is sleep...  I've learned that a nice, long kiss with a little tongue will make you remember the times you used to make out like teenagers and get you all warm and tingly....life brings all kinds of changes to us... sometimes we just need a little extra attention  :)  .... women ofcourse, usually take more time to get the fire burning - - - foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!!

Answer 10

it;s the other way around here too.  

Answer 11

most women grow wiser and realise men are very slack in stimulation when it comes to the female and some men don't care at all, as long as they get their s***w. So its now up to the men when they find themselves in this situation, to stop being selfish and improve on the foreplay.

Answer 12

When you trapped the Bear, you can put away the honey. Then they get upset when we get hungry and go looking for some new honey.  

Answer 13

In my experience,, once married women have control,, s*x is used as a reward and the lack of s*x is punishment,,  So if you want to get it more start doing things that she wants you to do, start helping around the house,, Key word here is helping,,  Don't fall into the hole of Doing it  cause then you will be expected to do these things all the time and it doesn't matter how many hours you work or what else you have to get done (been in this boat too and it took forever and many sexless nights before it was straightened out)      So make your wife feel more like a partner and not so much like a servant or a house maid...

Answer 14

LOL @ 6 of us

I wish I could give you 10 thumbs up for making me laugh so hard!

Answer 15

Men really fall off the horse once they get married.  They stop taking their wives places and courting her. They've won.  So they act like cavemen and don't care anymore.  Women pick up on that and stop caring as much too.  If you want more excitement in your marriage, be a better "boyfriend" to your wife!