Why me? Why me!!? Have I done something wrong?

Question

I feel really depressed, have done since February. Long story short, I'd fallen in love, got hurt. Took him back, then he went crazy on me, and he dumped me. We're now still together, but I feel so used. I'm unsure about my future, as I was meant to be moving, but the plans are sketchy now, as a Family problem has cropped up. Then last night, me and my friend were out, 2 older guys on bikes stopped us, tried to rob my friend. I tried to step in, he started on me. My friend handed over the bottle of Whiskey he had to make them go. They then appeared 20 minutes later, and came for us again. When I tried to defend my friend, he jumped off his bike got in my face, threatened me. I then grabbed my friend and tried to pull him.. but one of the guys grabbed me. He threatened me and started going through my pockets, I then went to hit him, but my friend pulled out some cigarettes and told 'em to leave us alone, they did. I cried... I ended up getting so angry I punched a lampost, and a bus stop. My hand is swollen, I think I've broken a knuckle. Why me?! WHY ME!!

I have Doctors on Thursday for my depression. (Thought I should make it clear)

Answer 1

this is going to sound CRAZEEEY! but please either read the book or watch the film called "The Secret" it'll change your life.... and your bad luck :)

Answer 2

You are hanging out with the wrong people.  Friend who has a bottle of whiskey!   Charming.  

Sounds like someone who wanders around at night and doesnt have anyone to care enough to keep them home.   Or do you sneak out against your family's wishes?  Parents are there to set the rules and guidelines and you are not doing things I would expect my children to do,  so start to get some commonsense into your life a.s.a.p.  There are other ways to live without being on the streets at night being attacked.  You didnt even go home after the first attack.  

Answer 3

I know what you mean. I have this friend who just can't catch a break.

Answer 4

you don't love yourself enough.  Stop with all this emotional BS and learn to love yourself before you destroy your life.

Get professional, and not just a Doctor and Pills, see a good counsellor and sort out the problems you have BEFORE you attempt to have a relationship with anyone else...seriously.

Answer 5

I would talk to your boyfriend about what you're feeling. I had Seasonal Affective Disorder a little over a year ago, and my boyfriend wasn't there for me, and in the end broke up with me because I was so depressed. I realized that if a guy can't be there to support you at least a little, then you're not supposed to be together. Let him know how you're feeling. And as for the creepy guys on bikes, the important thing is that you're not really hurt. Don't let your mind dwell on that night, it'll only make you more depressed. While you're at the doctor's on thursday, get your hand checked out.

To help your depression...take some time for yourself. Do an activity that you really enjoy to keep your mind busy. Buy some of your favorite foods, put on some good music.

Most of all, don't lock your friends out. Find a person (or a few) that you can really trust, and who you know will support you, and tell them how you're feeling. Keeping things locked up when you're depressed will only make it worse.

I wish you the best. :)

Answer 6

Quit thinking like a victim and you'll quit being one.

Answer 7

Hon,You've done nothing wrong.  Sometimes life hands us lemons.  Sounds to me that life handed you a whole fruit stand.  I'm sorry for the humor.  I know this isn't funny.  How much good would it do if your friend would've fought back?  It awfully dangerous when caught in a scuffle like that.  Both of you could've been seriously hurt.  And you especially.  You could've been physically attacked....Even raped.  You two have been truly lucky you weren't hurt even worse.  I'm sorry about your hand,My dear.  I truly am,But what are you more mad about?  Are you mad that your friend gave in and didn't put up a fight?  I'm sure he was more worried about you than his own life.  Now,I don't know how much I can do about your family problem.  I think it'd be best that I'd leave that to you.  Babe,I'm afraid that you're feeling used because of the way this boyfriend of yours is treating you.  And then he takes advantage of your big heart,Just to treat you poorly again.  Did your friend know these jerks somehow?  Trust me,You have done nothing wrong.  It seems that these are just one of those tests that the Lord up above sets down for us.  And the way that we get over these obstacles is the way we grow stronger.  You don't need doctors to help you with your depression.  They will only supply you with pills and then bill you pricely for them.  You know what you need?  You need a good friend you can rely on.  Someone you can talk to and trust in.  Now,Looking into my schedule,I have nothing happening for the next 20-30 years.  But if something comes up,You'll be the first to know.  What can I do for you?  How can I turn this frown upside-down?  What can I do to get you to show that smile of yours?  Yeah,I know can't be there physically for you.  I am sorry bout that.  What I can do is try to lend you some support,Some cheer.  Let you know that everything will be okay.  I promise,All of this doom and gloom will blow over.  And then we can say "Helloooooooo,Sunshine" to some goodtimes.  My name is David and it's been an honor to write you tonight.  I've gotta split now....Sorry bout this.  You have a goodnight and God bless.  Bye for now.

Answer 8

instead of pulling out some  cigarettes and asking them to leave you alone, try pulling out a 357 magnum and say, this conversation is over

Answer 9

Honestly I would try therapy it might take some time for you to notice a difference but it works. I know most people think you have to be "crazy" to goto a therapist but its good to talk to someone no matter what