Why mothers sometimes are over possessive about their children even after marriage??

Question

I mean even daughters suffer due to over possessiveness,parents doesnot want to accept the fact that their daughter is married and have her own responsibilites and her identity has changed,eventhough daughter tries to keep a pace b/w parents and in-laws instead of supporting their daughter morally,they try to impose their set of rules and make her life more and more difficult to survive,they expect their daughter to take care just becasue their 2 sons are not looking after them and don't respect their values or personalities.They expect their daughter who is married and have 2 kids to lookafter,to lookafter them and benddown to her knees to keepup the relationships with her 2 rude brothers gosh i really wonder how to go about such sutiation,it's a very sad suitation of one of my friend next door and i felt a better place to find an solution...

What you all guys have to for the same????

Answer 1

Tell her that she should talk to her mother and brothers abt the situation in nice way and take help from her husband too. If they dont understand her then tell her to keep away from her mother and brothers, change the phone number etc. Then they will understand.  

Answer 2

mothers tend to want to still be in control, its up to the husband to break the apron strings, talk to him,

Answer 3

I wouldn't tolerate a mother or mother in law like that. If the person is old enough to be married with children, she's old enough to tell her mom to let her live her own life. The fact that she has 2 rude brothers is another indication that she needs to cut the ties. Maybe if she backs off, they'll realize she's an adult.

Answer 4

99% mothers are like that.

You cannot quote proper reason for this behaviour.

One thing I can attribute is lack of common sense, logic, understanding and illusion. Lack of reality of life is also an important fact.

In my case, it is complete opposite to a mother's possessiveness.

My mother hated me, as if I was an unwanted child. Instead of hating her husband (who was my unwanted father). Though you feel this is rear, this happens in many families.

This is OK. but for whom you are asking this question and whom you are representing in this matter? Whether actual person is asking this question in disguise? I think so.

Answer 5

tabhi to we call her MOM..!!