Why must I always be opressed in everything I do?

Question

Okay well I am in 8th grade and school started about 2 weeks ago. Last year in 7th grade was really bad, because I was teased and bullied. It was to the point where I tried to kill myself and went through a short phase of bulemia.(physical, mental, and cyber bullying) And at school all of the girls would call me a white girl because I didn't dress like them.( I didn't wear South Pole, Baby Phat, Nikes) and I made straight A's in honor's classes.

This year I decided to stay away from them and I started to wear my hair natural(used to press it but it was a pain in the neck). Everything has been going great so far and I have never felt happier.

But today one of my old bullies grabbed my arm at lunch and asked me why I wasn't sitting with them anymore, and why was I talking to all these ''white b!tch3s'' (foolish I know). She also asked why I was ignoring my old ''homies'' like I was better than them, and why was my hair all ''jacked up''( she wears her hair permed but it's to the point of falling out)

And I said in response ''Because I have free will and I'm not prejudice'' She gave me a funny look and told me to sit with her adn stop acting white.

I really hate being around those people. What can I do so they will leave me alone? And why are they always bothering me? -sigh- Am I wrong for wanting to wear my hair the way it grows out of my head? Please I need a serious answer to why I am not accepted by my black brethen?

Answer 1

ZZ said it all, you seem to be a really good and mature girl. Choose your friends wisely and the bad ones will eventually leave you alone.

Courage is all I am saying :)

Answer 2

If you really are an 8th grader I have to commend you for your bravery and maturity. It may be prejudice on their part and it may also be that they are young girls trying to fit in. I haven't been in highschool in 10 years and thank my lucky stars I don't have to deal w/that anymore. Stay true to yourself and everything else will fall away.

Answer 3

What can I do so they will leave me alone?

---> Continue to ignore them and sit with other people. (Try to make some new friends who will support you when she comes at you with negativity.) Afterwards they may talk about you behind your back, but you'll be too busy with your new friends to notice or CARE!

And why are they always bothering me?

---> They could be jealous (of your grades or something else) OR they have poor self-esteem. (You'd be surprised at what people do to hide a crappy self-esteem.)

-Am I wrong for wanting to wear my hair the way it grows out of my head?

---> NO! I'm currently transitioning into a natural look myself! And it can look VERY cute if you have a style in mind! I'm mad I didn't start doing this sooner! :)

Please I need a serious answer to why I am not accepted by my black brethen?

--->  All I can tell you is don't write off Black people. Jr. High is a funny stage were everyone is insecure and a lot of people are mean with each other as a means of hiding their insecurities.

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You ARE NOT ALONE!

*** Regarding Cyber Bullying... TURN THE PC OFF! People always wanna talk junk over the internet but are too frightened to confront you in person! PUNKS don't deserve your time! And if it's via MYSPACE, BLOCK THEM, don't even open their messages. Set up two accounts if you'd like!

Answer 4

You're not being oppressed.  You obviously have some social conflict, but oppression means an entire class or race.   But, if those girls bully you, then what do you care if they don't like who you talk to, or how you wear your hair, or what grades you get?  If she thinks getting good grades means acting white, then she has a self-esteem problem with being of color. and it's her problem, not yours.  You don't owe it to them to change your act just because of skin color.  If they talk to you like that, just tell them to leave you alone.  I know it's hard when you get bullied in school.  I went through it too.  But if you cave in and start acting like a bum just because of peer pressure, you will regret it for the rest of your life.  Aim for the best future you can hope for, and that hinges on your grades.  Keep your eyes on the prize.

Answer 5

its called self esteem..they dont sell it...you have to already have it.

Answer 6

Wow thats some drama for an 8th grader. U sound like you got a good head on your shoulders. Your parents get props.

sounds to me that your going to have to get anti with your old home girls. Day to day just pull away from them. u sound like u know whats up.  

Answer 7

The sad truth is, your never free from the oppressive rules of society. Not just school... life.

And, the other thing.

That girl is a serious jackass.

Ignore her.  

Answer 8

i think u should stick your ground... don't let them intimidate u like that...u gotta face them and either get respect out of these people or don't associate with them anymore. they might give u a hard time for a while but it'll pass.