Why must the nice guy always loose out in favor of girls?

Question

I have known guys who are fairly unattractive and with attitude problems(arrogant and cocky) and are not millionaires who are getting all the pretty women? I mean why are alot of girls so into guys like these? Modestly speaking compared to those who i have described, i am the complete opposite to them i mean i am athletic, muscular and toned body, nice and respectful to all around me and alot of my firends at collage say im smart. Dont get me wrong like yeah i do get girls looking my way but i am trying to understand the psychology behind this? why to do girls often go for guys who are jerks and treat them very poorly?

Answer 1

I would love to date a guy like you, even without the collage ;)

Guys, as well as girls, always like to get

what is most difficult to get.

You see, it's really simple,

if there is no challenge, there is little appreciation.

That is why the nice guys end up with the 'average' girl.

And the nice girl, gets the one who is least attractive.

So why not settle for a 'nice' girl instead of a pretty looking girl.

I assure you, you will be much more appreciated by a nice girl than by a spoiled baby-doll who will think you owe her a living.

This is coming from an attractive looking, nice girl, who knows how baby-dolls think.

Answer 2

Pogmotho s answer is good. What I hope you can do is stop looking sideways at other guys and concentrate on being the best you can be in your academics and extra curricular activities. That is what will pay off after college.  Believe me, you do not want the girls who go after those kind of guys.

Answer 3

girls  want  someone  their  parents  will object  to  because  they  are  in a rebellious  phase of  their  life. forget  them.  when  a  girl  does  look  your  way grab  the  opportunity.

you  may  know  that  she  only  wants  your  body  right  now  and you  might  feel sexually  objectified  by  that but  YOU know  there  is more  to  you  than  that  and  afteryou've  been out a few  times  she  will  begin  to  appreciate the  fact  that  she  bagged  a  keeper.

Answer 4

I think young girls like guys who are fun. Bottom line.

Being nice and respectful is fine, but it's not fun.

They thrive on drama and emotion.

They like guys who will p**s them off and then make up with them later, etc.

Also, if you are too perfect, they might feel self-conscious or inadequate around you.

Girls like to be the center of attention.

They don't necessarily want to be around a guy who is more popular than they are.

Answer 5

I wouldn't want a man that is unattractive and cocky. I mean, what ever happened to Prince Charming? You sound a lot better than the guys that you know. Maybe the girls are just stupid and blind.

EDIT:

I just realized something. I'm a nice, respectful girl. Gets all A's in school. Normal sized, not fat. And, from what my friends and family and random people (seriously! once in a restaurant, a man told my mother that I was very nice looking) have told me, I am really pretty. But I NEVER get guys! I've had like, 1 guy friend that is almost my boyfriend. AND I noticed that all the "s***s" in my school are the ones with the guys hanging all over them.

Hmmmm....

Answer 6

They want his money. Women love to shop. Shopping takes money. For some women, it's number 1 on their list of things they can't live without.

I don't understand this either really. I'm female but I want a nice nerdy but cute guy with just a regular paycheck. Aren't women afraid of the guy holding money over her head? It's kind of like selling yourself into slavery.

If you think you are a nice guy, then go for nice girls. I find it hypocritical when guys ignore nice girls all the while they are complaining that they, themselves, are nice and can't get a date. Pretty girls are sometimes the jerks of the female s*x. So I ask, why do guys like to date jerks? huh?

Answer 7

Your remark about getting all the "pretty" women shows your own attitude could use some improvement.  

Answer 8

I'm not sure why girls tend to go for the "bad boys" maybe there are as lame as the guys they go for.. And Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder....I'd say don't give up, you want to be with someone thats sincere and honest on the inside, the outter shell won't last forever, lets face we all grow up and get old...SO don't give up, and don't not be yourself cause sooner or later someone will notice you, and then you'll be like wow... I've always been told since I was a teenager that Pretty is as Pretty Does and Ugly to the bone, so these pretty girls you were talking about, probably aren't real smart..*S*

Answer 9

1. I think girls like confidence and a take charge attitude

but 2. Maybe these girls aren't the kind to have a long term relationship with.  I don't think you would want a girl that is not honest and fools around with everyone (at least not for more than 1 night.)

Answer 10

Because they're genetically programmed to do so.  In olden days, those traits were the ones that got reproduced more often.

But you can use that to your own advantage, if you're willing.

Answer 11

dont you think youre acting alittle cocky yourself? i mean you bascially bragging about how much better you. looks can play a big role in the relationship, but when it comes to personality, that never fades, unless the guy is just playing the girl all along. the looks will fade, they wont stay forever. i've seen this kind of question all the time, why do girls go for ugly guys or abusive guys or jerks. well....i dont know! i'm only one woman, i can't read their minds.