Why my daughter reject her ballet class after 2 months?

Question

My 31/2 yr daughter first started her ballet class last 2 months. She likes and loves it so much. As a mother with dancing background, I can see that she really has potential in this area( her teacher give the same comment too) . Because my girl insisted that I stay in the class with her, so I did since the 1st lesson (there're other mothers too) but did tell her to be prepare that eventually I'll have to leave when she's ready.

Last week, during the class, she wasn't cooperate with teacher

and she kept coming to me. After few attempts to stop her doing so failed, I decided to remove her out from the class. After that we had a heart talk. She said she wants to continue learning so she promised she wouldn't behave like this again. So I sent her for class again today, unfortunately she repeated the same thing. If you have experience dealing with cases like this, please help!

Answer 1

This is normal behavior from a 3 1/2 year old. I just went through the same thing with my little girl. She is 6.

She wanted to take ballet so bad and then when she joined, she wanted to quit. (I think she thought she would be like a pro instead of learning the basics first)

We told her that she cant start something and quit in the middle of it and would have to finish out the year, then we would pull her out.

This year was thier big recital. She complained some but got a little more excited knowing she would be on stage for a big perfomance at the end.

She would get distracted, bored, etc. during class, but if we had friends or relatives come, she would straighten up a little and show everyone what she could do.

In June we had the performance (Im glad its over)

I suggest finishing the year-we told her if she wants to pick something else to do like piano, sports, etc. she has to finish what she starts. Otherwise we are not going to keep putting her in things and pay for things if she is going to quit.

She finished out the year and now wants to do something else.

It might be better if she doesnt know your there. A lot of kids will act differently for someone else, and if you are not there for her to come to during practice might eliminate half of the problem.

Keep reminding her that if she doesnt like it, she can stop taking ballet as soon as classes are over. (let her know there is ann end)

Remind her of all the friends she is making and talk to her about other things instead of ballet such as, "who is your best friend in class" maybe invite some of her classmates over to play, etc.

Good luck.

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Answer 2

Maybe you should leave, and stop playing her game. you need to look her in the eye and tell her this behavior needs to stop. and tell her in a serious manner that she will not be taking ballet classes anymore.

* or drop her off and leave, she would get over it soon

(its like when a child first goes to day care you have to let them go and they need to know the will stay)

Answer 3

She's just not having fun, or having more fun getting attention from you (that's my guess).  Only thing left to do is for you to get out of there and see if she stops the nonsense.   You don't need to be there, my twins had dance for a year and none of the parents were allowed in the room, all 12 kids did fine!

No reinforcement, no action, right?  ;0

Answer 4

I have much experience dealing with cases like this, and 99.9% of the time, it boils down to parents forcing their own interests on their children.  When you say you had a "heart-to-heart" with a 3 1/2 year old, the obvious conclusion is that you probably want her to do ballet more than she wants to do ballet.  Unfortunately for you, Mom, what your child does should have little to nothing to do with things you're interested in.  Your child does not deserve to grow up thinking that she has to like what you like or that she should always do activities that you want her to do, even if she's not interested.  Please, for the sake of your daughter, take a look at yourself, and really think about whether or not you are using your child as a way to help yourself feel validated.  If so, find a better, healthier, and more adaptive way to attain validation.