Why my husband is not interested in s*x with me ?

Question

My husband is not interested in s*x with me, but he is telling me to do everything for him like sucking and other stuff, I am married for three years and I had miscarriage twice, he is not having intercourse with me, he wants him to be satisfy, I have to do everything for him, but he is not interested in my body. please help me

Answer 1

WOW I'm really sorry to hear that but and sorry about this but what A FRIGGIN b*****d. He should be the one pampering you and satisfying your every need. What a selfish b*****d, you had two miscarriages and he treats you like that.Unbelievable.

Answer 2

He's having s*x with someone else.

Answer 3

Only three years of marriage! I assume that you both are young. This is strange and I can hardly advice you on that. I do not want to label him of anything but, please keep a close look because some more issues will develop as time goes. I strongly suggest that you stop satisfying him and watch what will happen.

Answer 4

I know this is gonna be hard since he's kinda being an a*****e and it should be on him, but you're the one with the problem so have the action on your part.

Make a nice dinner. Dress s**y. Be all over him and tell him you want to make love to him. Rape your husband if you have to.

When you have s*x fake your heart out. This is the best s*x of your life, he satisfied you in ways you couldn't imagine. Constant compliments on his amazing performance in the bedroom.

It's probably all bullshit, but he'll get a big ego boost and he'll want to do it as much as possible.

If he still wants a ******* just do it for a bit and jump on top from now on. Maybe on occasion you can go all out if you think he deserves it.

Answer 5

stop giving him anything untill you get want you want.

Answer 6

Ugh.  Everyone always has to say he's either cheating or he's g*y.  How original.

You know what he is?  LAZY.  He's not interested in your pleasure because that would actually involve some work.  He wants to lay back & be served.  It selfish & it's arrogant.  I personally wouldn't even care if he left me but I wouldn't "service" his stupid @ss again until he got with the program.

Answer 7

Could be that he's a selfish lover. But it also depends on what he gets when he does satisfy you...

For example, how do you react when he does things to you? Are you vocal? Do you have any extra incentive after he does give?

And if all else fails, you could try holding out until he does do start to do things for you.

Was he like this before you got married?

Answer 8

This is a tricky subject. I have no idea how to read you or your husband's mind. As man myself, I am single and not married, but I know if I wasnt interested in that kind of thing, I think maybe its from stress or a lot on the mind. It also seems that maybe he is having wandering thoughts. If he wont do anything for you in that way- it seems like he is not being attentive at all. You should ask him about this and say that its a 2 way street. Dont just don things for him. Although, I would admit thats what most men would want- its not a healthy marriage. at all.

He could blame you partially for the miscarriage and has feelings of biterness. He needs to let that go.

Answer 9

that isent fair and you shouldn't be dealing with that first of all you need to stop sucking it touching it or even looking at it until he shows you some affection A MAN WILL ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU ALLOW... don ever forget that

Answer 10

i dont know how your body is but if u need to get in shape. also if u give him wild ideas of different positions and stuff he might like. for example i used to like having s*x alot with my gf and then i got lazy and just wanted her to satisfy me but then she kept coming up with crazy ideas and different positions it was fun. and too much sucking can cuz wrinkles which will be a really turn of in the future and will lower ur chances

Answer 11

He's a homosexual, and he closes his eyes during oral s*x and pretends you are a man.

Or else he has another woman.

Answer 12

Don't want to  upset you but  may be cheating.One of the biggest mistakes in life Was having an affair  Ill regret for ever but  I did the other woman did that  90% of hookers customers are married  Talk to him> is he coming home late ? Making excuses to go out ?  Best of luck   Ps he may be afraid of another miscarriage

Answer 13

I'd be either going to a marriage counsellor, or I would be leaving him.  One or the other.

Answer 14

He is a selfish disgusting, using perv.

Just because your his wife does not make it ok for him to USE you sexually.

Get counseling or get out of this loveless sounding marriage.

Answer 15

sounds like a cruel...cold uncaring and narcissitic a$$hole to me! since he won't give you s*x, but he wants oral s*x and you to satisfy him...STOP!! say hey you do not satisy me so why should I satisfy you at all?!! the more you give into this jerk the more he will take advantage of your selfless ways and it only feeds into his selfish ways...stop just STOP!! not more sucky sucky whacky whacky whacky for him since he can not me a gentleman and please you and treat you with love and affection!!

Answer 16

There diffidently is a block about putting himself with you resulting from the miscarriages. Your miscarriage is his miscarriage. When he sees what it is there for him a huge breakthrough will occur. . It will take guts for him to verbalize  what is present. There is risk in this conversation but worth taking. Ask him to be very honest. It may hurt for the moment but is necessary to get beyond where you two are in this matter.  

Answer 17

Why don't you talk to him about the situation?  The only way to solve your problems is with communication.  I'm not sure if you are trying for kids, but maybe he is fearful of you getting preg. again and having another miscarriage?

Answer 18

find a new husband !!! because if he wants it his way and he's not even attempting to satisfy his wife, there's always a neighbor that will.  

Answer 19

Cut him off. explain to him that you want to be loved, wanted and appreciated too. Suggest counseling. It sounds like you are doing what you can, it is him.

Answer 20

Try shifting into a 69 position when you are taking care of him.  When he gets twitchy, if he isn't taking care of you, remind him gently and maybe playfully, to take care of you.  

If he's not open to taking care of you, he needs counseling.  Something is wrong when he thinks its a one-way arrangement.

Answer 21

he may be having an affair or he is g*y and is afraid to tell you. many married men were g*y and the wife never knew until years later.BUT to me it sounds like he is having s*x with someone else, every man I've ever known who doesn't want to be sexual with his wife is having an affair or was g*y.

Answer 22

Thats funny, Im at the age 32 now that i can live without it. My wife made me suffer for eight years. Paybacks a beeeeeotch. lol

Answer 23

well there is more than one thing that i can think of.  All of them would be best handled by counseling I'd think.

He could blame you for the miscarriages.

It could be a form of abuse. Withholding affections.

It could be an addiction to p**n. That will make men see women as objects not partners sometimes.

He could be very selfish.

Or it could be even not realizing that you're getting nothing much out of it.  (apparently when the roles are reversed men get more from that experience with a woman than women get from  what you're  being asked to do) Sorry trying to word it so as not to break any rules here.

Possibly he doesn't know what you like and feels it's not worth trying. If you think that might be it, find some way of communicating what you like and don't like.

There's also the possibility if it started to go awry about the time of the miscarriages that he could be depressed and just be  trying to escape so is not really letting himself think of you like he did before.

Whatever it is, i think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask why things have changed.(I'm assuming things changed or you'd not be  asking.)  When he tells you, if he tells you, no matter what it is, try to listen calmly and not  cut him off or he may close down more and you'll not be able to communicate again.

I hope things improve for you.

Answer 24

Honestly it s time to move on he is not intrested in nothing but himself so let him m********e to himself cut him off sexually if you have the urge by some new "friends" and lock urself away in teh bathroom so then it comes to no more sneaking his member towards ur face it is not becasue you miscarried it is because he is a selfish lover  

Answer 25

Maybe he's g*y?

Answer 26

FIND SOMEONE NEW.