Why my wife trying to change me?

Question

hi we have arguements over silly things like i spend too much time with friends.i stay up late.i dress funny.i didnt put my shoes away.i chuk the towel on floor.i didnt ask how her day was today

Answer 1

sounds like your mom!

Answer 2

because you are messy and inconsiderate

Answer 3

most women do that stuff.  and all guys do the stuff that she complains about.  

so welcome to the rest of the world.

try to do the things that are easy, like the towel doesn't go on the floor, call her if you are out late with the boys.  and she's always right, even if she's wrong.  but only you will know that.

Answer 4

Personally, I wasn't put here on Earth to be my husband's "Mother"... So, if this were my husband, we would have had words years ago.

Do you like living in a mess? Do you like to wear dirty clothes? Do you want to trip over stuff that is on the floor?

As a woman, our home is like an extention of us. How is looks is a reflection of us. If you don't want to her on your case... its pretty simple... Grow up and be an adult. Pick up after yourself and pitch in around the house.... OH... and the simple one.... ASK HER HOW HER DAY WAS....

Answer 5

Why does she try to change you?

Do you really have to ask?

Its like mountain climbing, WHY? because you are there.

Never forget that anyone who will have her is not really good enough for her.

Answer 6

When you get married you are subject to change. It's called compromise!!  Grow up and stop acting like a little child!!!

Answer 7

So you want to act like a teenager who stays up late spending time with his friends wearing funny clothes and then when you get home, mess up the house and don't pay her the time of day? Gee, I can't imagine why she doesn't love all that. Grow up, Junior.  

Answer 8

I think you would agree that when your wife is happy, the house is a happy home. But if you aren't showing her that you appreciate the things that she does (that you probably don't notice) she is going to be pissed off, all the time. Speaking from experience. If your house is clean, until you get home, you should acknowledge it. Or when you come home from work, tell your wife how nice the house smells or looks. Ask her about her day. She didn't marry you so that she could clean up after you and watch you spend all of your free time with your friends.  Take an interest in her or you will loose her to somebody that does. She is a human being too, not your maid.

Answer 9

Cause she can if you don't change she's going to change men.

Answer 10

There is a big difference between trying to "change" someone and merely wanting him to behave better.  Your behavior is poor.  I would think that you would want to improve yourself and be a better man.  One of the greatest things you can do in life is to make yourself into the best person you can possibly be.

Answer 11

Its kind of cliche but they say a woman is always upset because she marries a man expecting him to change and he wont.

And the man is upset because he marries a woman expecting that she wont change and she does.

Answer 12

Dont try and change everything just focus on one thing and put in the effort there. Dont worry I give my husband the same grief.

Answer 13

shes a woman. stay single dude

Answer 14

I guess your wife is sad that she married a slob. Shape up or ship out.

Answer 15

Clean up after yourself.   Throw away that stupid Hawaiian shirt.  Get rid of your horny single friends.  Lets cuddle.

Yeah, that's about right.

Answer 16

I don't think she is trying to change you per se, just make you more considerate of her and your relationship together.  She won't act like your mother if you pick up after yourself like a grown man should.

Answer 17

Grow up. She wants to be your lover not your mom. You are not good enough to be her lover, that's why she's saying it. Why don't you behave better?

Answer 18

You wife isn't trying to change you, she's trying to make you grow up! How old you are 12? Stop staying out so late and spending so much time with your friends, instead stay up late and spend time with your wife, dress like an adult, put your own shoes away, hang up your own towels, and show some consideration for your wife.  

Answer 19

It doesn't sound like she's trying to change you... sounds like she's pissed because you are a slob...

Big difference between change and respecting the other person and keeping things organized.

Grow up, she's not your mama... she's your wife, respect her and don't expect her to clean up after you or wait around.

Answer 20

First of all how long have you been married? Yall sound like newlyweds I went through that with my soon to be ex-husband and we are going through a divorce now. He claims that drove him away and the fact that he wasn't ready. Just tell her Check her a** see how that works!