Why nobody understands me? in my culture being g*y, it's a symbol of an effeminate guy?

Question

I am g*y and I am little effeminate,I don't know if all g**s are like that..well many question have told me.. I should not care for stereotype.. Ok.. but many friends around of me.. and people who know me are very so mean and unfair.. they judge you.. they could ask me.. are you g*y? I don't want to make them to know because of my University.. the point is I am lonely.. I have classmate.. who is g*y.. I am sure he is g*y.. because before he got in my degree,, I met him in a chat and he showed me his face.. I didn;t show mine.. a friend of mine.. a girl told.. he is her teacher.. and she said.. he looks something g*y.. I know he is trying to hide.. I don't have a friendship with him.. we are just classmates.. we don't have a good relation.. so close.. I have seen in between g**s.. there are rivalities because some g**s want to stole the bf of their friends.. or stuff like that..or they can make to know to everybody that you are g*y..even they don't care if people think about them..

Answer 1

It sounds like caring what people think is a reasonable way to keep yourself safe and unhurt in a place where people beat up g**s.

Is there any way you could go to an even bigger city for your university studies?  Transfer there or go there for post graduate work or even a job after you finish college?  I don't know Mexico at all, but as a rule, people in larger cities are more accepting of a variety of types of people.  I'm sorry you're lonely.  Maybe you should pursue that guy you met in chat.  At least for a friend.  Good luck.

Answer 2

ok, you know the guys g*y, you kinda already met.

its a good idea to be friends even if you don't try to be sexual with each other.  You need to reach out.