Why not get married?

Question

Just curious but what reasons do people have for not wanting to get married?

If you are then you very well cant answer but thanks for stopping by! lol

Answer 1

why get married? other than the legal benefits, marriage is only a ceremony, a certificate!

to me, being in a committed relationship is crucial, not a piece of paper.

i will get married to my partner, eventually. in the meantime, we ain't sweating it...so why should anyone else?

Answer 2

I'm not interested in it.

I also don't date. Kind of hard to get married when do don't search for a partner first.

I don't want to lose half of everything I have in court when the marriage eventually ends.

Answer 3

Because they don't have to. It only has to be that simple.

Answer 4

I just don't see men that feel they want to get married. I never wanted to get married anyways.

But really I don't feel like a paper can tell you who you are devoted too.

Answer 5

I know many people view it as an exclusive institution.  In most states, same s*x couples can't get married.  For that reason, some are holding off until everyone can get married rather than taking part in what some consider to be discriminatory.

Answer 6

I plan to get married, I guess for the legal benefits, but sometimes I think that marriage is just a label, and in our culture, it is largely a religious ceremony, and I am not religious.

Answer 7

Because people don't know how to commit so hey, why get married when they're only going to get divorced anyway!

Edit: The poster above me said "In most states, same s*x couples can't get married. For that reason, some are holding off until everyone can get married rather than taking part in what some consider to be discriminatory."

This sounds like some lame excuse some guy would feed a feminist woman to keep up his free ride

Answer 8

I have been with my significant other for 14 years and I don't see marriage in our immediate future. If it ain't broke, don't fix it is how the saying goes, right?  We are happy.  We don't feel the need to have a piece of legal paper.  Maybe if we decide to have children, we would.  It definitely wouldn't be one of those uber-showy weddings, that's for sure.  What a waste of money!    If you're committed to one another, what difference does it make?  A ring and a piece of paper doesn't keep people together.

Answer 9

One half of marriages will end in divorce. Easier to end a relationship than an marriage.

Answer 10

I want to marry, I've never been anti marriage, if anything I'm anti divorce. I'm a traditional Ethiopian Orthodox woman & for me, I couldn't have s*x w/o being married. I say that life is hard as it is, wouldn't it be better to help someone carry their burdens & vice versa?

Answer 11

its not what its cracked up to be.

Answer 12

Marriage sucks. I'll never do it again.

Answer 13

A senior citizen lady in my town (who has 100 nieces and nephews) said "a lot of men are swearing off marriage, especially younger men."

And "women today are too difficult."    

She keeps telling me about all the failed marriages in her extended family.  Who done what and who's fault it was, etc.

It's not unusual to hear of a marriage breaking up a week, month or year after the wedding.  The laws make it too easy to dump someone and move on to the next victim, er lover.

Answer 14

Given the fact that roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce, a lot of people prefer not to take that chance.

Answer 15

It would intefere with my goals. Althought being married is not one of them so i generally dont understand when my friends talk about how great it is. Although im not a very dependant person i can clean cook and all that fun stuff on my own, and its a bit irratating when some people think men are completely useless in these fields because of there reproductive organs.

Answer 16

i've seen too many unhappily married couples. and not only that, i've seen too many "happily" married men trying to hit on me. they are god-fearing, church going men and their wives would swear that their husband would never step out on them. and there he is trying to pick me up like a 17 year old school girl. i would get married, but i would have to trust the guy with my heart and soul and not too many men (that i've been with) deserve that much trust and commitment from me. i live with my son's father and some days i think i could do this forever and other days i just want to break free and not have to keep him in mind when i make major decisions. being married, in EVERY decision, you have to include your partner and that can be a lot of stress and pressure.

Answer 17

Many people feel tied down when they're married. Plus the cost and planning of a wedding can be quite a pain in the buttocks.

Answer 18

I'm too indecisive to take such a drastic step to alter my life. I'm too selfish to share my life with another person. I'm too independent to live with someone else and explain to them where I'm going, my finance accounts, my plans next week. I understand that no matter how compatible two people are, irreconcilible differences have a high chance of arising and divorce would be too much of a hassle for my calculative life. There are also certain expectations in a marriage (cooking, cleaning, childcare) that are not compatible with the career-freak that I am. I have my friends, family, boyfriend and other people in my life who do not require such responsibilities from me as a marriage would. And since I don't want children and will probably die early (Type-A heart-attack type personality!) there is no point to change my "perfect" and pretty happy life.

Answer 19

My boyfriend and I have lived together over a year, been together 2 and wanted to get married next year. But we cant for financial reasons.. it sucks.. we split all the bills and both work, but, once we get married all his school grants and loans get transferred to his name and we cant afford that, he and I both loose our medical insurance, I loose my grants, and the car insurance on his car gets transferred to his name. So financially we'd be in trouble..

Answer 20

It is financial suicide, emotional suicide and often ends in just that suicide( it is interesting that there is no female suicide rate after divorce but there is a high rate of suicide after divorce for male...).

      The way the law's are written it just doesn't make sense to get married(or to cohabitate). Too much liability, all it takes is running into a psycho black widow, you end up dead she makes a fake excuse that you where abusive and bam she becomes a celebrated hero with her own lifetime movie.. no ty.

     Apart of me wants to get married but thankfully logic rule's over emotion.

Until murder is treated as murder and domestic abuse(unless there is clear evidence of self defense) is no longer a valid excuse to commit murder, the financial aspects of marriage are re-worked(division of property) and an end to retirement theft(after a divorce if a couple is married for 10 years the wife can steal half of the husbands retirement).

        And the whole financial slavery thing(alimony) is also unappealing.

        But with the way things are going http://www.glennsacks.com/blog/?p=2345

Better off not settling down even if you don't live together..

I wonder what's next women demanding alimony after a one night fling?

Answer 21

Exactly what Moondragon said.

Answer 22

I am not a religious person, I see marriage as a baroque and old fashioned institute personally. I believe I will be with my man forever I just don’t think we need a piece of paper and a ring to justify our love. If we respect and love each other why do you need to get married anyway? I guess I m just not willing to spend, or make such a fuss over one day; when you can save that money and love each other everyday.