Why parents react this way?

Question

Ok, So i have good parents, they aren't abusing at all. But lately my father has been moody and he hates how I go out and hang out with my friends. He seems to have a jealousy problem. I try talking with him but we both always end up yelling and making it worse!

Does anybody know a good way I can approach him to understand that my friends mean alot to me???

Answer 1

They might worry about you becoz they love u so much. I had same problem when I was in high school. Just tell them about ur frds and some kind of events when u hang out with them.

Bcoz u really need their trust. But dun be angry if they still gonna do like this. The only things they'r yelling you and make u feel uncomfortable is they luv you. :)  

Answer 2

first try understanding his position as well. You are his little girl and it's hard for him to see you growing up. He is probably afraid that you might get into the wrong things. He feels like you don't need him anymore and worries that you are more concerned with your friends than your family.

If I were you, I would just reasure him that you still need him and his advice...go to him occassionaly with questions or for advice, that will make him feel needed and like you still have a good relationship. Have one night a month at least for a father daughter date and do something together even if it's just getting ice-cream. These things will make him feel better as a parent and like you are still close and he will be more likely to back off when you spend time with your friends.

when you talk to him about your feelings never uses phrases like "you always...." or "you make me feel...." Instead start all your phrases with the word "I" that way you are making it about you and not him. using phrases lke "you always...." will put him on the defense and make him feel like it's an argument not a discussion.

Answer 3

Your father maybe thinks that your friends are bad influences on your behavior. Even if your friends seem to be absolutely fine, then your father probably sees this in them. Parents do not like for you to ask them why when they feel that they have a perfect solution for a problem you even are unaware of, what you should do is approach him and simply say "Dad, do you think my friends are maybe a bad influence?" Allow him to give you an answer, if its not what you wanted then simply do not argue, just walk away, show him you are mature.

    If the influence is not the issue, it could possibly be that he doesn't trust you out on your own, don't get mad at him if this is the case, he's only trying to protect you. Show him you are mature in this area by taking on more responsibilties without complaint, as well as always meeting any curfew you may have.

    GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Parent act this way once in are live because they worry about us making mistakes the best thing you can do is to talk to him about this problem and tell him how you feel about your friends?

Answer 5

well i think hes jealous because maybe he feels left out maybe you could say dad i like talking and hanging out with you but every once in a while i like to be with my friends and talk and hang with them doesnt mean i dont love you i just want to have some fun with my friends please understand i love you with all my heart all im asking is for a little space.

Answer 6

you talk to your mom and then get her to talk to your dad.

Answer 7

tell him ur growing up and need ur space and friends!