Why should I have children?

Question

I am 29 years old and have never had or wanted children. I don't feel comfortable on their presence and quite nervous if they come near me. I loathe times when some woman brings out her baby and everyone in the room is expected to coo over it. I don't know what to do so I normally leave rather sharply. My partner and his family think I am just saying I don't want children and that I will have one soon. One of his sisters recently informed me that I better hurry up before my eggs ran out. I am not a criminal and I haven't harmed any children by steering clear of them - why am I made to feel such a bad person by society because I don't want children? Go have your own!!

Answer 1

The majority of people in our society get married or have children for all the wrong reasons and both end in disaster. Having unwanted children is worst because, you have brought a life into this world that didn't ask to be here. People now are way too selfish to adequately raise children, this is why they are running wild. Parents shower children with material things to keep from having to be bothered with them. Having  a child and raising a child are two different functions. If you truly don't want to sacrifice your life for a child, you shouldn't do it no matter the pressure.

I bit of male knowledge, the quickest way to loose your man is to have a child. Men love women not children. As I've said many times, if your man cares more about a child than being romantic with you, then you have some serious problems and a child and all the responsibilities will not help as so many women falsely believe. Be true to yourself.

Answer 2

Sounds like you and your partner are on different wave lengths as far as having children...you may have to re-think the relationship since it sounds as though you really do not want kids and your partner will want them at least that is what it sounds like as far as the families response is...If you don't want children you shouldn't have them!

Answer 3

If you have to ask that question, you shouldn't have children

Answer 4

Don't worry. I am 41, and I feel as you do. I never wanted any either, and I was always told "You'll change your mind", or "Your brother has two already, when are YOU Going to catch up to him." Like it was some sort of contest. Just ignore them. You are your own person, and only YOU Can make the final decision. My husband feels the same way, and we have been married 13 happy childfree years. :)

Answer 5

I think you should sit down & talk to your partner about this, if you don't want children & he does it will create problems for your relationship when he eventually realises that you are serious about not wanting them.

Answer 6

maybe because every one who has had a child says it the most amazing experiance etc you shouldnt feel bad they'll get over it but maybe you should lighten up a lil when people show off their bubs n enjoy when you can hand the baby back...lol