Why should I have to fake liking little babies or small kids when I don't really like to be around them?

Question

They drive me insane! Their parents drive me insane too! But sure enough they expect me to like all the stupid goo goo and gaa gaas and puking and pooping like their kids are some angels. So, why should I have to fake it?

Answer 1

i don't fake it.  at work when people bring in their kids (don't ask me why) i usually pretend that the baby isn't there.  when visiting family i don't coo over babies and if people as me to hold them i say no.  if they insist i'll say "well babies don't like me" and they ALWAYS say "oh that's not true, why would you think that" or something like it, in which i say "probably cause i don't like them very much".  then i ask them if they want anything while i'm up.  works just about every time.

Answer 2

Who said you have to.. As long as you aren't being mean to the children, then feel free to not googoo and gaagaa over kids.

Answer 3

You don't but you could be polite or don;t put yourself in those situations.

Answer 4

Just let people know you are uncomfortable around babies and kids.  Thanks but no thanks.

Answer 5

You dont need to be googoo and gaga over them, just be nice. If a little toddler came up and spoke to you, surely you wouldn't be rude?

Because if thats what happens, its why parents would get pissed. I know I would.

Our children are the most important to us and we want others to respect that

Answer 6

You don't have to, but you should be polite as you would to any person you meet in a public place.  Little kids are still people, nobody says you have to like them but you should treat them with the same respect that you show others.

Answer 7

I feel the same way as you, and I am the mother of 2 small children.  I don't hold other people's children, nor do I want to play with them.  If they except you to act like that around their kids, avoid those people!  I find it annoying as well.

Answer 8

I dont fake it, im just not a hypocrite and I have a child myself but i dont like other kids. Not that there's anything wrong with the kids, they do drive me nuts cus i have a short fuse and no patience.

My best friend doesnt like babies and im totally okay with it, they dont need to be loving on all the kids around them. Just be polite and honest.

Answer 9

You don't need to fake it.  Be polite, thats it.  I still don't really like other kids, but I love my own to death.  And make all the noises and clean up the messes.

Answer 10

Heya! I think that feeling is definitely normal! I was one of those kids that said I'd NEVER have kids when I grew up and not having young children, like nieces or nephews or anything in my family (I was the youngest and my family consisted of just my mum, sister and nan) I always felt uncomfortable around children (never knew what to say) and couldn't understand this broody-goo-goo attitude your supposed to get when someone shows you a newborn! If I could I'd run a mile in the other direction!

And then I had my own...............

Until then you can't understand how wonderful it is. Children are amazing and funny with the things they say and all that they learn. I still feel a little reserved around other kids but by being a parent to MY daughter it is teaching me how to be with others.

So its ok to feel as you do. Just be nice as you would be to anyone and keep your distance! lol

Answer 11

You don't have to pretend to like anyone in life.  You should treat everyone politely & with respect, though - child or adult.