Why should Women quit career and stay at home?

Question

My husband is pestering me to quit career for kids aged 4 and 2. Honestly I am scared of pampering them if I stay @ home.

How many of you will quit career for kids? Am I a bad mother for leaving my kids in Daycare?

Answer 1

I dont work now, just do I can watch my son grow up, I dont like the idea of sending him to day care when he's 4 months old, because I know he will just sit there unless he needs to eat or something. I like to be the #1 provider for my son. But when he starts school I plan on going back to work, while he's in school. No your not a bad mother, some people cant financially afford to stay at home, you wont pamper your kids if you stay at home with them, they will just get to stay in an environment that they are used to, but I think it's too late now, they are used to day care, your used to working, so why change it? sometimes I wish I could go to work to get a break! lol

Answer 2

I had a wonderful career and really enjoyed working.  I left my kids in daycare when they were small and never even thought about it.  The problem came when my son, then aged 3, had a huge accident while in the care of an au pair.  I suddenly felt paranoid and couldn't entrust my children to someone else's care.  My over protectiveness was temporary bu by then i had given up my job.  Since staying at home I noticed huge differences in my kids.  Firstly they tell me stuff.   Before we had conversations like "how was your day?" "fine" "what did you do?" "stuff" ... now they tell me everything because there is no pressure of "quality time" and they know I'm not preoccupied.  I'm a calm, constant presence in their lives instead of rushing around trying to balance a million things.  Our family is happier and the sacrifice is worth it.

Answer 3

I stayed at home for the first 18mths of my sons life and although i love him more than life itself . . .it drove me up the wall!!  My mum stayed at home with my younger brother and i until i was 8 and she was at times completely miserable because some women just arent made to stay at home all day with children.  For those that do i admire you.  I love my son and when he started nursery full time i missed him like mad (i often took random days off to spend more time with him).  I now dont have that option with my second child and will have to go back quite early on which breaks my heart.  If you want to spend more time with your children then you could go part time (best of both worlds), but if you love your job then dont let your husband pressure you into quitting work.  Children like the structure that daycare gives them and its great for their social skills so you are far from being a bad mother.  My son has never suffered as a consequence of being in daycare and is a lovely, secure, sociable child!  You do what you feel you want to do not what you husband thinks you should do, that way you know you are doing the right thing.  And for the record if i could stay at home with my baby when its born for the first year then i would but i would not quit my career to look after my children full time as i know i need to be out in the grown up world!

Answer 4

Your oldest will be in Kindergarten soon ,there is no point in quitting your job now! once there in elementary school you will be at home bored to tears all day.

Answer 5

No one says you have to or even should give up your career. If you will be happier as a career mom, that is great. If you WANT to be a stay at home mom and can afford it then thats great too.

I personally am a stay at home mom. I made that choice out of my own personal reasons. Never let anyone tell you that you SHOULD do anything. Make the best choice for you and your family. There are some days when i wished i was a career mom and there are days when i am glad that i am home. Its up to you.

Answer 6

Of course you are not a bad mother!  When you walk through a room of adults can you pinpoint who was a daycare baby and who was a home-raised baby?  Of course not!  Some people will have you believe that if you don't stay at home you are evil and your child will be a social failure.  That is, obviously, not true.  There is NOTHING wrong with staying at home, but the bottom line is everyone is different.  Do what you want to do!

Answer 7

if i could afford to quit i would but truthfully some days work is a vacation

Answer 8

I left a successful corporate career to stay home. I don't regret a single minute and can't imagine working full time ever again. Life is too short.

Answer 9

I took a break in my career to stay home, because it's what made sense for my particular family and my particular kids, and it's just what I personally wanted to do.

But of course you are absolutely not a bad mother for choosing to work if you have good child care for them.  Thousands of women do it and raise happy, successful, thriving kids.

If your husband feels so strongly that a parent should stay home with the kids, he could always do it.

Answer 10

you should ONLY be a SAHM if you want to. It's not for everyone. You would not  be a bad mother if you chose to pursue your career instead. I'm a SAHM and love it. I used to do public relations and don't miss it at all.  One day--if I want--I may go back to work, but for now I love hanging out w/ my baby girl.  If you love your job and find it fulfilling then stick with it!! You can quit at any time if you change your mind.