Why some women go for men who are already married? ?

Question

I have met a woman who seems wonderful in many ways. Problem is she has twice been the other woman in extra-marital affairs, but maintains that she was faithful while in her own marriage. She is divorced and the first incident was while dating her ex-husband prior to their marriage (he never found out). He left her for someone else. The 2nd was after their divorce with her ex's married best friend. Both affairs lasted nearly a year. The last one ended in April this year. We've been dating since end of May.

Now I've never been married and have cheated on past gf's but have always made it an absolute no-no with regards to married women ie. they're strictly OFF-LIMITS. I've maintained that I'd only get married once I was certain that I'd found the 1 as I take the sanctity of marriage seriously. Am I heading for trouble?

I'm 34 and she's 35.

Answer 1

That certainly would be an "interesting" relationship/marriage. Who will be cheating on whom?  

To answer your question of why some women go for men that are already married...they are no good s***s without a conscience.  As for the married men that date them, same answer as for the women. That would definitely be staring trouble in the face. So, YES, you both are heading for BIG trouble.

Answer 2

I think your being a bit hard on her.  You need to realize that you don't know fully the situation at the time.  You also need to remember that it takes two so the person really at fault is the one who was actually cheating on their spouse.  They were probably telling her how bad their relationship was and that they were probably going to get divorced and all sorts of stuff.  I don't think you can take her past in that regard as a sign for trouble in terms of your own relationship with her.

Answer 3

Why because she they are s***s probably have stds to becareful it might rot off.

Answer 4

you're never gonna know...   but I've noticed women with young kids in their mid 30's to be the ones that tend to cheat most..   i know from lots of experience....

I'm guessing she'll be faitfull to you, untill you get married and have 2 kids and start taking her for granted... lol .. then i would worrry.  : )

Answer 5

69 babe said it best i might also add most didn't have daddy love growing up also molested and c**p like that really screwed up and need help.

Answer 6

Mmmm...much of the time the guys don't tell them they are married. So they are already emotionally involved before they find out, then they have the emotional bond and find it difficult to let go.

Answer 7

Trouble would be an understatement

Answer 8

For one the waters have been tested and is safe . Two the wife cleaned up the husband making him look good . They actually like his wifes taste in clothing and such that she dresses him in  

Answer 9

well if you feel that you cant trust her this early on leave her now . it will only end badly

Answer 10

Some women just prefer being with men that can't completely commit to them because that helps them avoid the troubles of commitment