Why stay married if your not in love?

Question

My wife and I met 24 years ago. I married her for the wrong reason. She got pregnant so I stayed in it for the child. Now my son is grown and in College. As for me well, my wife and I are like friends, but there's no love making like she wants it and it has been this way for 24 years. If I divorce her it will kill her. So I am stuck in marriage with a woman I do not really love, but I care for her. She can't make it on her own so I have to take care of her for the rest of my life.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

This marriage has made me and my wife crazy. Married to a woman I don't love...what on Gods green earth did ever do to deserve this is beyond me. I really, really, really screwed up and theres' no way out of it. I have to take care of her for the rest of my life and miss out on what love really is with the one your with. So everbody who's married out there married because you love yours, I married for other reasons. I' never loved my wife. I married a wokman that I am not in love with and you think you have problems in your marriage....lol try being in my shoes.

Answer 1

"Why stay married if your not in love?"

why GET married if you're not in love

"what on Gods green earth did ever do to deserve this is beyond me"

you put yourself in this situation. the only true reason to marry if you you truly love somebody. getting married for the baby is pointless. what is that going to do for the baby? if there was no baby, there would be no wedding? kids are not that fragile!! i just don't get marriages these days. its like people just don't want to take it seriously anymore.

24 years of your life wasted down the drain when you both could been with someone else, raising families. but instead you stayed for the baby, now hes grown! so whats in it for you now?

you  need to talk to her about this, not us. if the divorce will affect her that greatly and she can't take care of herself, then she needs to get a job or work out some kind of plan. can you imagine yourself being with her for another 24 years? get out of this fake marriage and find the real love  that you let yoruself neglect.

Answer 2

you can't make someone fall in love with you, so if that's the way that you feel, you can't change that. however, before doing anything that could break your marriage, give it just one more chance. perhaps you could plan a romantic evening out or something , but if it all goes pear shaped, then you will know things can't be fixed.

Answer 3

You either stay or go and break your vow that you made before God & your wife.

Answer 4

You're confusing, it sometimes sounds like you are and slash are not married. But my bf's mom and dad are like that.  They have been married for almost the same amount of time you have.  His dad I swear to you is like a robot.  He never gives his opinion he just agrees.  He wont divorce for the same reasons you wont, plus his deal is that "it's been this long"  You should never marry for any other reason than love.  You need to make yourself happy really.  You are in this life right now and this is what you are making of it?!  You need to quit that.!  I have two kids with my guy and we are not married.  You answered one of my questions about him going or not going to prison for being stupid.  NOW he wants to marry me?!  No, I don't think so.  He didn't want to when I did, and My thing is marriage is supposed to be there for one another.  How is he going to be there for me?  No, he wants surety that I will be there for him when he gets back.  He don't want me to cheat. That is not my #1 priority in life though.  But if I am not happy I will move on, and that is what you should do. Good luck.