Why teacher is behaving like this with my kindergartner daughter and what should i do?

Question

my kindergartner girl is very good in studies and in behaviour. she got the student of month and academic excellence award in beginning of the year and she gets citizenship award every month for 9 times regularly for her good behaviour, time punctuality to go to scchool,on time homework submission like things.In april,domestic violence case happened at our house and my child also got hurt a little and i informed the school too about this incident .just after that the teachers behaviour changed with my daughter. she started talking with her rudely,did not give her citizenship award in april and when i ask her ,she said that my daughter got punished in class several times for her behaviour and she doesnt have that much time to tell every parent these things. she talked to me rudely too. i felt humiliated but could not say anything . i asked other parents and kids too of her class but nobody told me that she has ever get any punishment kind thing. she is doing the same thing ....

Answer 1

Go speak to the principal.. maybe even change classes... your child does not need to be subjected to this kind of behaviour especially from a teacher. And as of her talking to you that way now thats darn rude... and i would be mentioning this to the principal too as it was an inappropriate way of handling the situation and any child who is being punished in class---every parent has the right to know.. the teacher needs to make time! *i'm not saying that your daughters being naughty i would just say this to the principal*

Answer 2

Awww, that's sad.  It could be that she's being judgmental of whatever happened back in April, and is taking it out on you and your child.  Maybe she acted up in class due to that, too?

Take comfort that it's the end of the schoolyear and you'll have a new teacher in the fall.  I have a friend who had to tell the teacher of a situation like that, and I think it swayed the school staff to scrutinize the family.  But you really have to notify them, especially if one parent can't pick up the child.

Good luck to you~

Answer 3

go to the princepal. and u and teacher and him or her all talk..

Answer 4

go to the board of education. Report the teacher for abuse.

Both verbal and emotional. Then go to your child abuse office and report it too.I would corner the teacher on it. Something should be done cuz if you dont do something, then u are saying that it is ok for trhe teacher do treat your child that way

Answer 5

As a parent of a kindergarten daughter,  are you sure that the incident did not cause your daughter to start behaving differently in class?  And maybe she was just being punished for her behavior?  Sometimes we tend to be extremely sensitive about things where our kids are concerned and don't look at the possibility that our babies may have done wrong.  Did you get your child any counseling after the situation happened or someone to talk to?  Kindergarten teachers have to be strict, set rules and they apply to each child.  A lot of parents don't accept that their child may have done something out of line and needed to be punished for it.  However; I do feel that if the teacher noticed a change in behavior after the incident that she should have referred the child to the behavior resources counselor.  And as her Mom I would highly recommend you taking her to some sort of counseling etc., sometimes you don't realize how seriously things affect children at that age.

Answer 6

Schedule a meeting with you and teacher and principal. Be honest and straight forward, but don't let her rude actions bring you to her level of behaving, even though that's every mom's first instinct. Also, find out what's going on in your daughter's impressionable mind. Talk to her, find out how she feels about the situation. She may be going through some things due to the incident that you may not realize.

Answer 7

Wow, Kindergartener? People these days... anyways, here is what I would do:

1. Investigate. FInd out exactly what has been and is happening.

2. Talk to the principal or school board, whoever is in charge of hiring & firing staff.

3. State your case calmly and clearly.

Until then, just continue loving and supporting your daughter.

Answer 8

Perhaps the child really is acting out in class and deserves to be reprimanded for her behavior.  Teaching is tough, especially a full kindergarten class. Also, in our school a child is only allowed one award a year, so they can spread the accolades out amongst the whole class. While that is too P.C. for my taste, it could be a new policy at your school that you're unaware of.

On the flip side, our local police are very much involved with our school and the teachers, they frequently come in for presentations, drills, etc. and as they all live in the neighborhood, the teachers have their children as students.

As privacy-violating as it seems, an officer may have divulged details of the domestic situation to a school employee that left you in an unflattering light.  It's unfair to take that out on your child and you need to get to the bottom of this before it bleeds into the next school year.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Your child may have had an issue at school due to what happened at home, but NO teacher has a right to be rude to your child or you.  They are paid PROFESSIONALS and that is not the professional attitude or committment.  Talk to the school and let them and the teacher know you will not accept this type of problem.  You will probably have to move your child to a different classroom if the teacher continues.  I WOULD BE AT THE SCHOOL IN A HEARTBEAT!!!

Answer 10

cAll the school and ask to talk to school counselor.  Explain what is happening and ask for suggestions.  The counselor should be able to casually observe they dynamics and be prepared.  It coudl be that your chid is acting out a bit because of what happened.

You might want to go to a counselor for one or two sessions and see if there is something brewing or if it truly is the teacher acting out their perceptions.  

Alternatively you might also volunteer tohelp at the school for a few weeks off and on and observe the situation informally. .

One additional thing ask to see the written records on your child... all of them so that you know what is in them.  You don't need next years teacher influenced, they can make their own judgement calls. hang in there

Answer 11

I think you need to go to the school and talk to the principle and teacher about this

Answer 12

It sounds like the teacher is being unprofessional.  However, a domestic violence case that went as far as hurting you daughter could definitely have caused her behavior at school to change.  When kids experience things they don't understand they have a hard time coming to terms with the event...her behavior may have changed at school because she is trying to understand what occurred.  Talk to the guidance counselor at school and if necessary seek counseling for your child.