Why the heck did my mom say this?

Question

She said i was like my dad's little "wife/girlfriend" (minus the s*x/kissing) But she said he built his home for Me and he only gets happiness off of me (non perverted way im a very postive person). And i mean he doesn't have a girlfriend but he like's to spend his time off work with me (or friends) like he will take me shopping or lets me bring a friend to go on vacation with us or something a NORMAL single parent would do. I'm thinking my mom may be jealous because i don't live with her/rarely visit her but only because she damaged my mind for abusing me although she claims I was Abusing her (Bowl-****)

So is she just jealous that i don't spend time with her? And this whole thing started when i went over to her house. Although we were having so much fun washing the car and gardening and playing with our dogs and cats and doing laundry and she just like snapped and i'm pretty sure it wasnt what i said cause i didnt say anything. But then i mentioned to her like i don't like staying at her house because i'm use to living at my dads and going to bed at a certain time and waking up and running at a certain time and eating all the healthy organic sutff he buys and stuff like that and they smoke at my moms house and im horrible allegic plus i don't want to to affect my breathing when i run. So idk HELP ME! So should i like just forget the rutine? Or like am i being to selfish? To hard on myself? I JUST WANT TO BE A KID!

Answer 1

My ex-wife is jealous because my daughter is a daddy's girl.

Answer 2

i think she is. it's not your fault. you are use to doing things at your house. she needs to calm down. maybe have a day to her self. but she needs to know that she's not acting like a good mom to you.

Answer 3

It is never easy between moms and daughters and it is even harder if you are in the middle between parents who are split. You don't know why she turned on you, but it was probably something you said without realizing it. You start to relax and say something she took the wrong way and then ranted on.

Best thing is to still spend time with her, even if you are less comfortable than you are at your Dads. Just don't talk about Dad and what you do with Dad at all. Tell her you want to hear about her and tell her about yourself while you are together. Say you don't want to waste your time together talking about Dad. Try to build a relationship with her while you can.

Answer 4

All of this sounds HIGHLY dysfunctional.

On SO many levels!

Answer 5

look my friend is going thru the same problem as you and what i can tell you is that your rutine is your rutine and its your desicion to quit or not but this is what happened to my friend he was going thru the same problem and he said to his parents its his desicion where hes going to be and if you feel confortable than stay there but make sure you have that desicion that will make your life easier than it used to be  

Answer 6

So just be a kid sweetie, you shouldn't have to be in the middle of their mind games.  Since you seem close with your father, why not expalin this to him and ask his opinion or for help in addressing this with your mom, so she understands.  If you attack it head on she may feel as though your attacking her and that doesn't seem to be the case, you've just got your own preferences like everyone else in the world does about 1 thing or another.

Answer 7

You really can't know what was up between your parents. He may well have had no kind of decent relationship with her, and your mother may indeed resent that he does things with you and is considerate with you and she never got any of those. Or it may just help explain why you dad bailed out. Problem is, she hasn't worked out how to deal with that without feeling like it says something about her. (Which it may, for all I know.) You can't fix her. You can just tell yourself it's her problem and feel for her and remember you can't know just how she came to be hurt so bad.  

Answer 8

Yeah. She is jealous. She is angry that he showers you with the love and affection she wanted from him. Just blow her off.  

Answer 9

your  mom is jealous she can't give you those things, but doesn't like it rubbed in her face either. is there anything positive about going to her house? are they considerate of your allergy to smoke, and smoke outside?i think you want a good healthy relatiobship with your mom but she lets her anger over the custody get in the way and thats why she is so mean.

Answer 10

If you visit your Mom often enough she wouldn't be that way with you. You don't have to sleep at her house as long as you find the time to visit her regularly she would probably feel better about it all. The things she says about your relationship with your dad is not necessarily jealousy but it's her hurt feelings coming out.

Answer 11

Yup ... she is jealous. Make the decisions that make you healthy & happy. Try being a young adult ... not just a kid ... it fits you better.

Good luck !

Answer 12

Poor Megz

It does sound like Mom is jealous of your closeness to your Dad.

It's unfortunate that she is taking this out on you and hopefully she will realize it before she damages her relationship with you.

It sounds like there is a good structure at your Dads and you seem to be mature enough to know right from wrong.

I hope your Mom eases up and becomes a mature adult and learns to respect your decisions as much as you show respect for her.

Perhaps she will be able to start the healing instead of making you want to stay away.

good luck to you