There are several recent questions about whether women "need" men or men "need women.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmsUwl34WrLtoX459.wfEqoYxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20080820105422AAkBvdq
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoJnhpfnujuG87vjyogg3F0Yxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20080820102719AAjcKHN
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqRAYHJwwTxYO.CN0feNh4gYxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20080820105221AAF8leO
This is also a long-standing argument about the need we have to feel needed.
In reality women and men need each other to reproduce, but that's about the end of it. Yet our obsession with "need" continues. The fact is that we often resent those we think we need and in our perceived need we hold unrealistic expectations of those we need. In other words, need creates resentment.
Being wanted on the other hand, means so much more. It may be a less secure position, but it's less fraught with resentment and expectation, with co dependence. It's more genuine.
Why would anyone want to feel needed instead of wanted?
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