Why u give ur child for adoption?

Question

my concern is how do u feel knowing that u have a child somewhere and don't know what he looks like.

Answer 1

Adoption is still good though. Some parents can't take care of the child (this is what happend in my case) because of another child that they already had. My brother, who was also adopted, had a mom who didn't even know who the daddy was (couldn't tell you which man) and had four kids already. If adoption wasn't avaliabe she was going to get an abortion or leave him in a trash can because she was hiding the pregnancy from her family (but she said something kept her from doing the abortion and I think God that something did)

Answer 2

scan report child no proper growth so compel to do abortion

Answer 3

I was very young, and unable and unwilling to raise and support a child.  I felt I was giving him a better life than he would have had with me.

How did it feel?  Agonizing.  I wondered if he was even alive.  I lamented the fact he wasn't looking for me (although I later discovered he was).  However, it also felt pretty cool, knowing that I'd passed on all the good genes I carry.

Answer 4

There is  'open adoption'. It is where the family can send letters, cards and photos back and forth. The love you have for a child to want to give them a life you can not provide out weighs the wondering what the child looks like.

Answer 5

I placed my child for an open adoption, I chose and met the parents and felt right about my decision.  I get pictures and letters all the time and it makes me happy knowing he is being raised by a family that can take care of him and give him things I never could.  I am happily married now and will be having children soon and my child is turning 5 this year and doing great, he has the best school, and two of the most loving people I have ever met for his parents.  It was the best decision for the both of us.

Answer 6

It's a pretty awful feeling, the not knowing if she was safe or happy and wondering if she looked like me. The worst was wondering if she hated me for giving her up. She said she did have some years when she hated me, and I understood.

Answer 7

there are many factors as to why one give up their child for adoption. i almost gave up my second child for adoption due to numerous reasons...what it all came down to ...what was in the child's best interest...not mine. it is a selfless thing to do.

Answer 8

Would I give up my own child? No. But it is a good option for other women who are unable to care for a child.

Answer 9

I think adoption is a great thing. There are so many people who aren't ready for a child, and if someone else can give them everything they need why make the child suffer? My friend wasn't ready for a baby and put her up for adoption. She keeps in contact with the family and they let her take her once a month. Its not like your selling your baby on the black market. Majority adoption agency's check the parents thoroughly. They make sure that the baby is in a stable home. Its sad when people can't have babies, but they have all the tools to make a great home. Some girls are just too young to have babies.

Answer 10

I only agree with adoption if a women has been raped and decided to keep the child. There are so many forms of ways to stop getting pregnant now so use protection. I could never do that to my son as he means to much to me. I wouldnt even be able to give my dog up thats just as bad.

Answer 11

I can tell you how my birth mum felt.  For the whole of my life, all of the rest of her life (37 years), my birth mother felt guilt and pain.  She had 3 other children whom she raised after she gave me up, it did nothing to ease her hurt over loosing me.  Giving me up coloured everything she did, it affected every relationship.  She died believing that giving me up was her biggest mistake.  Understand, this is not how I feel.  I loved my birth mum very much but I had a happy adoption, I love and am loved by my adoptive family, for me, knowing my birth family and what my life would have been like with them, adoption was the best thing for me. (I escaped from sexual and emotional abuse at the hands of extended family and my birth mothers partners, both of my bio sisters were abused.)

Answer 12

they are happy becasue they gave there kid a good life

Answer 13

Adoption is a very good thing for society. Instead of having them needlessly murdered from abortion, it gives the baby to a good home, and people who can not have kids themselves can have one.

Answer 14

No.  I've always wanted to be a Mom.  I also have the means to support a child and myself.  I also have a great support-system.

Answer 15

Sometimes putting a child up for adoption is the ultimate sacrafice of love.  Doing what is best for the child.  I had 2 kids and then was going through a divorce, he had left me 1 1/2 years before, and I was "engaged" to another man.  We broke up and I found out I was preggy.  I gave my daughter up because of her dad.  The adoptive parents were wonderful people I met through a mutual friend.  They let her visit my folks and sent me pictures.  YES, it was and still is hard but it was best for her.  We met officially at my mothers funeral 2 years ago and we stay in contact.  My husband and 2 of his 3 kids have recently visited her and her parents in their home.  She is 18 and still in high school.