Why was is acting this way with me ? Plz help?

Question

It was fine when we first met, we really liked each other and stuff, but then I started to turn him down because i felt he was seeing someone else, I don't know why, but he kept her secret. During that time he was being sort of a boyfriend, even though we've never went out, it just hurt him more and more when i kept on rejecting him.

His best friend liked me and they started to fight each other because of me, and that made me back off. He used to get jealous of every guy i spoke too, he stalked my frnds to know more about me since i didn't talk to him much, he used to watch me in class, sit next to me and stuff. He even used to keep his gf outside just to help me, he also offered his help alot, even though if i never asked, he'd forcefully do things for me.

At the end his brother started to like me and i just drew away from him and now he made his relationship with her known to everyone.

Why did he do this to me? He still talks to me and i have deep feelings for him, why was he acting this way ?

Answer 1

He's acting this way because he has issues, very deep issues.  They have nothing to do with you.  In fact, the more protective of you he is, the more you should not be with him.  The reason?  When people cheat, and do bad things, they become paranoid.  They think that since they are doing the bad things, people may do it to them.  I am applying psychology to this, but it is so true.  Many cheaters and compulsive liars keep their women on a short leash.  You will probably need to keep your distance away from him.  I know you have feelings for him, but if you love yourself, and you want to have a bright future, you will do what's best and distance yourself from him.  Protect yourself from further heartbreak. If you go out with him, he will only control you more.  My grandpa was just like you are describing here, and he cheated on my grandma with tons of women.  He controlled everything, up to what she wore.  You should tell a counselor about this, they can give you further help.  Good luck!

Answer 2

maybe cause u turned him down