Why was the conversation so awkward?

Question

Ok my ex and I broke up almost 4 months ago. She cheated on me, although that had nothing to do with the break up. All the information about the cheating didn't come out until after the break up. Anyway, she was able to convince me for a hot second that her cheating was my fault. I'll admit I bought into it for a little while and then I thought nah, no way I'm taking blame for this one. So she IMs me a couple of hours ago. Just brief, like maybe 2 or 3 minute conversation - you know the hey how are you doing type talk. But it was SO AWKWARD! Just three months ago I was trying to convince this woman to give us another chance (dumb breakup blues I guess). I was so sure she was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with - I loved her so much. I forgave her for cheating. I even forgave her for blaming me for it. I forgave her everything - it was just easier than the opposite. But the awkwardness was SO weird. It almost felt as if I was talking to a complete stranger. Anybody else ever experience this? What does it mean?

Answer 1

Wow! I love your question because it gives me hope that one day I will feel like that about the guy who broke up with me recently. I am so destroyed but it right now and can't imagine ever not wanting to get back together with him!  Thank you!!!

Answer 2

I have been in almost the exact same situation. I was cheated on, but made to feel it was my fault, forgave her for everything including blaming me, etc. I just had a flash back, actually, when I was reading this.

I would advise you to cease ANY AND ALL contact with her, period, no questions asked. If you have mutual friends, end it with them too. Dont explain anything, it won't matter or make a difference. This is how I had to do things when I was in your shoes. I was forced to alienate people and remove them from my life because with them in it, I was unable to move forward.

I know my methods seem drastic, but if you truly want to move on and be done with it, I tried for a h**l of a long time and found no other way. If you do find another way, many props and I hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

It means that you're over her.

It is very difficult when you end a relationship, especially a bad one.  A lot of times it is difficult to see things the way they should be seen -- like you shouldn't be begging for her forgiveness, she should be begging for yours.  I'm glad you were able to see that this was a toxic relationship, and that you needed out of it.  I'm happy for you and happy that your life is now on a better track.

Time went by, and you decided maybe you don't love her anymore -- at least not like you did.  I bet if you really thought about it, even if she called you right now begging you to get back with her in the end you'd say no -- and you'd be right.

Move on.  Don't date if you're not ready to, but go out and make sure you have yourself a good time doing the things you enjoy.  Good luck!

Answer 4

Sure. I just means that you finally caught on that she's not who you thought she was, and since you haven't known that person long, she really is sort of a stranger. And it feels odd talking to a stranger about such things.  

Answer 5

I think it just means that you don't feel what you felt for her anymore. Things and feelings change as time goes by. Maybe you just don't see her as before. Maybe you just want her as a friend.

Answer 6

It means you've gotten over her.  You're heart has moved on.  Even though she will probably always have a special spot in your heart, I think you've gotten over the relationship and learning these things about her after the break-up only makes you realize that maybe you didn't really know her (well, not all sides of her I guess).

You don't need her in your life anymore, and you know that you deserve better too, so I would not pursue a "third" chance!!!

Answer 7

cut the bioootch loose. It sounds like you are in the stages of getting over her. It can't be your fault that another person chooses to copulate like a rutting pig under a tarp in a junkyard. Was she fat too?

Answer 8

It means that you are getting over her.  

Answer 9

she was a stranger.  she was somone else different than the woman you thought you were dating.  plus when somone puts you through the emotional ringer like that and you get over it, what is there to talk about?

better than feeling all weepy thats for sure!!