Why? what do i do i dont understand this?

Question

i have recently discovered that his mother who is supposed to be a good mormon woman has been saying nothing but hateful things about me and she doesnt even know me except for the one time she met me and borron and i had a small tiff now she tells himthat he needs to leave me or she will never help him again and that she does not approve of us in any way and that he had better pray we dont have a baby because then i will be a bigger problem some how she just tears me down and knows nothing of me she liked me before she meet me but after that tiff him and i had she seems to have nothing but hate why why is she this way to me its just i have no family of my own mine hates me why i dont know and it breaks my heart i found these emails and i lost it i started crying uncontrolable and wrote borron a text message beging him not to leave me because of her he said he never would and she is only useing his love for me to hurt him and he doesnt understand why my hubby is in texas right now with her adn he is jsut telling met that she gets that way because things dont fit in her perfect world .... she tried to pres the issuse about me haveing a son from another marriage while he was on the phone with me she was yelling and screaming i was a money diggin w***e (heonly makes 1400 an month) lol i got so upset and i told him not to sound rude but shes not married and living with her bf and reguardless of age she has 3 kids from another marriage i belive that it is because he is her first born she is up set that i take carfe of him because she keeps saying "i always helped you when you needed it" lord knows i want to yell at her but i wont and never will ... she also gets on to him about taking care of me .. idk i dont get it what did i ever do to deserve this she doesnt know me she met me once 8 months ago ... people are always like this to me and all i do is bend over backwards to help people and they wonder why i get so upset i get treated like c**p !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just want to cry im so upset and hurt

Answer 1

Awww...you already answered your own question. It's always hurtful if someone on the outside, especially tha moma doesn't approve of YOUR relationship. She probably believes no woman will ever be good enough for her son...except her. Just try to remember he is still with you and it seems he doesn't let his mother's words get to him so don't push him away by complaining about his mother having a problem with you. Then you are looking at wanting him to choose between the two of you and that will just create more unnecessary drama to the relationship. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Don't let her get to you! Some mothers are like that, and it sucks. I had an ex (we broke up for our own reasons, no help from her) who's mother hated me. She wanted me to be more of a housewife, and I was like NO. I have always believed in equality in relationships 50/50. So she really hated me. At first it hurt me becuz she wasn't even trying to get to know ME. Anyway, i just learned not to care about her views on me, why worry about someone who makes assumptions.

Have a communication with your boyfriend to tell him about your worries of him leaving you because of her statements. I'm sure he will tell you not to worry, then move on and don't let her win but letting her upset you.

Good Luck,

Monique

Answer 3

Well first off, if the son went crying to mom about the tiff you had, that would put you in a bad light and now mom sees you in a bad light thanks to the son. Tell your guy not to go crying to mom anymore because its makes his mom think bad about you. And tell the guy to grow up and stay away form mom,how old is he???