Why when some men have problems (work...)?

Question

they don't want to talk about it and sometimes if we ask,they took their anger out on their Gf or wife?and what a woman should do in that kind of situation?is it a reason to leave or divorce?i am not in this situation,i just want to know what people think about it.

Answer 1

Well, with my husband, I am BEGGING for anything work related. I know he is stressed and he says he just doesn't want to talk about it... but then here is the kicker... he'll get on the computer and talk to anyone about his day. Which of course hurts my feelings. He finally told me that he doesn't want to burden me with his bad day or his stress... I told him that there is no way I can make his day better if I have no clue what is going on with him. And, its not fair to me because if he happens to chat with a woman, that is his definition if "leaning", of which he has asked me not to do with men. If I have a problem I'm supposed to go to him... So, he took one look at that and apologized. He said he hasn't been "leaning" (as he calls it), but that he truly didn't want to bring down my day with his crappy one.

I think we see eye to eye now, he came home last night and filled me in on his day... so I cracked him open a beer and rubbed his feet. He said it was nice and made him relax and forget about it. I SO wanted to say "I told you so!", LOL but I held my tongue. I was just glad he let me in!

Answer 2

I have been out of work recently.  Even though I am a hard worker and my former employers loved me, it makes me feel lazy and worthless.  I am single and for the first time in a long time I am not really pursueing women because I feel inadequate.

Answer 3

This is human nature at its worse.  We, as humans, find ourselves taking everything out on those who are closest to us instead of the ones that cause the frustration.  I wish I had a good explanation for it but it is not unusual and I guarantee you that he feels bad about it but it is over before it can be stopped.  It is not worth getting a divorce over, its purely not personal.  

Guys feel weak talking about problems so they normally keep it inside and wait for it to go away.  This build up is what makes us snap at you when we shouldn't.  Seriously, I promise you he doesn't mean it and sometime when he is in a great mood, talk to him about it.  Tell him it hurts your feelings but only if he is in a tender mood.  We tend to say things we don't mean if we are angry.  Sorry we are like this and I hope this helps. Good luck...

Answer 4

Men are different than women. They go to a cave to think while women talk

Answer 5

That sounds true of what my wife is like. She "brings her work home" and couldn't balance out either. Some men just don't like showing a "sensitive side", that's all. We don't like to feel vulnerable to the women we are supposed to be strong for.

Answer 6

Walk away - just walk away.  If they don't want to talk about it, walk away.

Answer 7

No, this is not a reason to leave or have a divorce because we all have our bad days. Usually, when my husband says that he doesn't want to talk about something I leave it alone and he will eventually bring it up when he calms down. But that is no reason for them to take it out on you.