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Question

I met this guy on the elevator in my dorm area. We walked to the bus station together which is about half a mile and had a good talk. He was not the cutest guy in the world but he seemed like he could be a good friend. Before we departed he asked for my number. Well 3 days later, after he did not call or whatever i just figured w.e its college and he is busy. Well i saw him in the elevator with a bunch of people and he did not say a word to me. He definatly saw me to. So whats the deal? Does he suddenly find me unattractive or was he too nervous to talk to me. he was the one that originally started the conversation with me so Im kind of confused why he acted like i did not exist. Whats the deal?

Answer 1

I'm a female but I'd guess in this example you told - part of might be his own personal "challenge" out of his pride and ego.  For instance, "let's see how many numbers I can get to feel good about myself"....and has nothing to do with you. But to do w/his own arrogance or insecurities.  (Insecurities are usually the main frame for arrogance).

But again - you don't know what happened to him in the 3 days you last saw him.  I hate to say it - you don't know if / who he may have run into in your dorm, said stupid stuff about you; you don't know if he's getting peer pressure from his buddies trying to steer him towards another girl (maybe a female friend of someone they are interested in).  Or he may have gotten your number and gotten another girl's number instead he had more interest in.   Or maybe has a girlfriend already and very confused; feeling guilt....or they broke up and he's unsure of himself.  You dont' know.  But all of these scenarios happen in life and in college.  

In any result, obviously you may never know why he behaved this way to you.  It's sad to say but you cannot do anything about it but be cordial to him and rise above it when you see him - friendly "from a distance".  

Meaning, hopefully you recognize it's his issue; not yours and hopefully you have enough self-respect to not let a person or a man behave that way to you....or you set a bad precedent right off the bat that he knows he can get away w/bad behavior.  I'm not saying be mean to him but you really don't need this, do you?  I'm sure there are wonderful men in your dorm or on campus that are secure w/themselves and don't act so immature or flaky.  They are the ones I would "worry" about if you're going to at all. :) hee hee.

Answer 2

um maybe he will feel embarrassed to talk to you in front of his friends cause i don't like to talk to girls either when i'm with my friends

i think it's just a guy thing idk

Answer 3

A lot of guys do this c**p.  It's called "collect and select."  They go out and hit on every girl they see, try to get as many phone numbers as possible, then they only contact the best ones.  I guess you weren't in his top three.  He might still contact you some day if he gets "desperate."  Otherwise, he'd just tell you he "lost" your number.  If you give it to him again, he'll "lose" it again too.

I followed one dude through a mall once.  He checked out every store and if he saw an attractive worker, he'd go in and hit on her.  A lot of the girls were apparently foolish enough to give him contact information.  Either way, he'd go out and proceed to the next store and do it all over again.  It's as if he were "shopping" for girls.

Then, when a serious guy like myself meets a girl, she's already been used and abused by a bunch of players and has the scornful attitude that "all men are jerks," so I suffer.  It won't change until girls learn to choose better men the FIRST time.