Why won't my 5 year old sister stop crying at school?

Question

so she started kindergarten for the first time and her first 3 days was crying a river. she was also screaming and running away so much that my dad had to drag her into school. pretty awful sight and embarrassing too. she crys to get out of things.we tried telling her to be good and have fun in school but she's so scared. i look around and all the other kids are behaving so much better that her. will the school kick her out for not participating?

Answer 1

give her time, she will eventually give in

Answer 2

no they won;t maybe your sister is having separation anxiety from your dad or your mom

maybe if your parents gave her a locket with pictures of them inside to remind her of them or give her a little part of her favorite blanket

Answer 3

O.M.G

i remember these days like they were yesterday...

shes just scared but in about a month she would have mede friends and she will love school..

Answer 4

She's not doing it to get her way this time. Please be patient and understand she's really scared and having separation issues. Maybe as a big sister you can talk to her about all the wonderful things you've done and learned in school. And maybe even offer to help her through this. Perhaps one of her favorite things she likes to do with you, you can say if she can go a whole week without crying, then you two can do that together. Just try to put yourself in her shoes. This is all strange and new to her. And she needs her family's love and understanding right now. And someday, she'll forget all about this.

I needed to add something to my answer. You didn't mention a mom here, only your dad. So if your mom isn't in the picture, it's possible that's part of your sis's issues. When she says good-bye to her dad, she may feel he's not going to return just like your mom. So you and your dad should remind her that you will always pick her up and be there for her. She's too young to understand that on her own. If that's not the case, with the mom, then please disregard.

Answer 5

Be sure you don't focus on "all the other kids are behaving so much better"  that will only make things worse.  

You could help.  You could ask her if she wants to talk about what's making her cry.  You can tell her how you felt when you started kindergarten.  You can just sit by her and let her cry a river if she wants to.  Sometimes kids can just get overwhelmed.  Just because she turned 5 doesn't mean she's mentally prepared for kindergarten.

Be her friend.  Show her how to make some friends.   When she makes the littlest improvement be sure to tell her she's doing great.

It's good to see you're so concerned for your little sister.

Answer 6

She is probably used to crying to get her way at home and thinks it will apply with "this whole school thing." What she doesn't get is that even the most passive easy to manipulate parent will force their child to go to kindergarten so your sister is in the process of a "what the F***?" moment". She needs to learn and accept the fact that when it comes to school, she is not going to win, she is not the boss. It will take time and consistency and a kind but (very) firm approach by her parents to get her to understand that she can't just cry to get her way. But crying to manipulate is all she knows so she is not going to let that go easily. She is going to increase the intensity before she realizes/accepts its not going to work anymore. So hang in there and be consistent. The school will not kick her out but they will insist on her attendance each day. If it goes on too long she will be behind academically eventually. So be consistent. Its best to drop her off and go. Don't linger.

Answer 7

See if you might be able to go to school with her and stay with her all day maybe if your there she'll feel a little better knowing there's someone she knows right there. While your there try to get her to become friends with the other kids. Maybe she's scared and just doesn't like to feel alone?

Answer 8

They may recommend counseling like they did with my son.  He is 6 years old and has severe anxiety so he scares easy of new people and places.  The first visit we did to the school to try to prepare him was at the end of the school year last year and he screamed and cried and we had to drag him into the school and he just couldn't handle it and actually threw up after that.  We had to take him back with no kids there a few times to show him where everything was and introduce him to the office staff and meet the principal and get him a case manager who will work with him at school to help him adjust better. Social anxiety disorder does hit little kids too and it can be horrible on them because they don't understand why they are so scared but they really are scared sometimes to the point of throwing up or passing out or having asthma attacks.  Sounds like your poor sister is one of the ones that have that problem.  A dr may need to prescribe medicine for the anxiety and get her a councilor to help her get more adjusted.  She will need slow steps with new things.  

Answer 9

if she did nto go to pre school this is commonask her why she doesnt want ot be ther and expalin that she will only be ther for a while and it will be fun  if she gives it a chance