Why won't my mom let me be me?

Question

i can't do anything with my mom.... i can't use tampons i cant were makeup...and i cant even wear my hair the way i want to because she thinks it looks messy.... i don't know what else to do with her. i tried talking to her but it just ends up in a big argument then i get in trouble. IT NOT FAIR!!!! i don't know how to talk to her anymore.... what should i do??

Answer 1

This is ridiculous... Tell you mom that Please let me live the way I wanted to or I would take help from cops.

Answer 2

hey! .the same thing happens to me too..my mom too wont let me dress the way i want to...not that i dress promiscuously but she just doesnt allow me to wear certain kind of clothes like tank tops just because she wasnt raised in such an enviornment... as far as tampoons and pads are concered..well since i went through ur previous question i read about u being a cheerleader and stuff like that... if weaing pads arent really comfy then u SHOULD be wearing tampoos..just dont let her know that ur doing so... keep her under the impression thatur using pads..stuff like messy hair and all..well TRY to ignore her...i know its difficult to ignore her at times...if talking to her ends up in an argument thenjust leave it there...just do what u want to..ofcourse inurlimits but try bring diplomatic with her...MAYBE ur mother is right on her part....but she needs tounderstand ur needs too...she needs to think from ur point of view..something which even my mom fails to see... i guess its a teenagephase??idk.....maybe u could start using light make up as per ur requirments just done over do it...

Answer 3

I know this is weird, i'm getting through the same problem though that i'm 16! so i don't really know how to answer u

Answer 4

Be a responsible child...do what she wants you to do...then she'll see that you're mature enough to handle your own life..but you have to understand from her point of view...she's a mother..and as a daughter you don't have that point of view..but your mom doesn't understand how you look at things...talk about that...come up with a compromise. let HER talk about what she feels..then take what she said in, and tell her what you feel...never get agitated if she disagrees right away...she's just a mother that wants you to be exactly like her..but she has to understand she's not your clone. you're ur own person