Why wont my 16 month old listen to me!?

Question

I have a 16 month old daughter and she just will not listen to me at all i dont work i stay at home with her i just dont understand what im doing wrong, If i tell her NO she'll just give me a look and then do whatever shes doing wrong and if i take whatever shes doing away she usually starts to cry. When were out in public she'll start to get mad in the cart and try to stand up so ill hold her and then ill "try" to let her walk around but she will NOT hold my hand if i try to get her to hold my hand she just sits down and starts screaming and crying if i let go of her hand she just takes off running and ill say her name ill tell her no and she just keeps going.. i just dont know what to do anybody have any ideas??

Answer 1

Try not to get onto her (I know I know, but hear me out) unless its major.  Instead when you do see her do something right (like stop when you tell her no) then just give her praises, like over the top.  She will learn that this is what you expect.  There is an article all about this technique in the August 2008 Parents magazine.  You may be able to find the article online if you dont want to buy it (parents.com)  The article was called "Discipline for Softies" and is based on the ideas of Dr. Alan E. Kazdin.  I know this technique probably sounds bogus but I have been trying it on my 3 year old for about a week now and have already noticed a change.  Also, subscribing to a parenting magazine was one of the best things I have ever done.  Not only does it give you good advice, and very helpful info, but it also assures you that your not alone and what you are going through is normal!  Best of luck!

Answer 2

Because she is ONLY 16 months old!  She is NOT a mineature adult, her mind doesn't work like an adult's mind.  Her little mind doesn't process information they way an adult's does.  She is going through "The terrible twos" which can happen at anytime in toddler hood.  Do not LET her stand up in the cart, if she starts having a "meltdown" take her OUT of the store INTO the car and take her home, find someone to watch her and IF it is really important that you go to the store go back.  If you tell her no about something and she goes ahead and does it anyway you need to set her in "time out" at 16 months she should be in for about a minute.  She isn't going to like it and will attempt to get up...so you put her back over and over and over and over...it's called being CONSISTENT.  IN order to raise a child you need Consistency, Discipline and Patience.

Answer 3

well she is 16 months old  she cant understand u

Answer 4

she is going through a stage. my 3 year old little girl Maebree went through it to. she will grow out of it

Answer 5

Welcome to toddlerhood and the beginning of the terrible two's. :)

My now 20 month old daughter still acts like that. I know she understands me cause she does what i say when she choses, but when i ask her to do something that she doesn't want to, she also gives me a look (which i can't help but laugh at, inside of course) and continues on doing what she wants to do.

You just have to be consistent. It will get tiring but you just can't pull her away from it a few times and stop after a while, cause she will know thats all she'll have to do to get her way.

As for her not wanting to be in the buggy. Tell her straight to her face that if she doesn't hold your hand back in the buggy she goes. And the second she pulls away from you, put her in the buggy. Yes she will throw a fit, yes, she will probably embarrass you, but she has to learn her grounds. Again, consistancy.

Like i said, it i will take a while. My daughter started her terrible twos at 16 months as well, so i've been doing it for the past 4 months. It isn't fun, but you just have to be strong and keep up with it. Good luck