Why wont my parents leave me alone?

Question

My mom is trying to be my bestfriend even thogh I dont want her to be! I used to tell her every thing and now I just want to be left alone! I'm just an angerym12 yearold girl! And my family just wont leave me alone! What do I do!

Answer 1

Imagine if you had someone ALL your life, to your mom she remembers every moment with you but you cant remember every moment with her its not possible, the older you get the more you break away from your parents or you want to have the mental/physical block thing from them as you are getting older which makes them want to feel like they are still an important part of your life, its hard for a parent to let go of there child. if you grow up ignoring your family or not wanting to have anything to do with them they will eventually turn there back on you

Answer 2

You're getting older and entering an age where you are feeling like you want some independence-you don't feel like a little girl anymore but you're not near being an adult yet either.  There will still be many times when you really do need your mom.  Also, your body is going through all kinds of changes that is making you feel cranky and crazzzzzzy:)  (search "puberty" on-line). Tell your mom how you are feeling and ask her to help you out with the rest of your family.  If you don't feel like you can say it to her, then write her a letter or an email just remember to also tell her that you love her because this isn't an easy time for mom's either.  What you are going through is not unique-even though it feels like it.  Hang in there, sweetie!    

Answer 3

tell them you want some space and if you need something or want to talk about something that youll come to them

Answer 4

When you get into trouble or have problems, you will turn to your family. When no one else cares about what happens to you , your family will always be there.

You are going into adolescence and you are very confused. Be thankful that you have a family that is there for you. Some kids would give anything to have what you have.  Be grateful.  

Answer 5

you dont want her to be your 'friend' right now because your a 12 year old girl and she annoys you and you think your too cool for that. guess what, when your in your 20's you will realize how much your mother means to you!! try and be nice to her. i really regret some of the stuff i have put my parents through and they mean everything to me!

Answer 6

well hun, having been 12 at one point I understand... /but/ your family loves you and wants to know who you are growing up to be. Your mom may be pushing to be your best friend because she loves you and she is seeing her "baby" growing up before her eyes and she knows it won't be much longer before you go off and make a life of your own.

Talk to your mom and make some compromises here... like if you hang out with the family at this point in time then you also get some alone time too for that point in time.. or if you eat dinner with the family then you get to go hang out with friends later... just try to balance it a little, so your family doesn't have to give up you and you can have some alone time too.

You are just going through the typical 12 year old stage where you want to distance yourself... it's part of growing up and it will pass...  

Answer 7

Wow, you are a little brat. When you grow up your going to wish you didn't treat your parents like that. Besides they are the ones spending their hard earned money on your sorry ***!

Answer 8

How would you feel if your best friend treated you that way?  She just wants to be friends again.  What you are doing annoys her as much as she annoys you.

Answer 9

Well, if you used to tell her everything, then she is probably acting like that because she thinks something is wrong or going on because you don't any more. Once in a while just tell her something little to make her happy, but also tell her how you feel. In a nice way!

Answer 10

You are very fortunate to have someone that cares about what is going on in your life and takes the time and shows interest.

If she was once your friend, what changed?  

The one benefit of having your mom as being your best friend is that she will never stab you in the back. You'll get good advice and she'll never stir you wrong.  

Having a mom friend is better than having many girl friends.

You need both, but your mom will always be there for you.

Answer 11

reverse phycology, or, plan family time, like here, we have family sundays, where we all get together and talk.