Why would a boyfriend just one day drop off the face of the planet..including ignoring all of his friends

Question

my boyfriend of two years and i were that extremely amazing couple everyone was always jealous of and last august he broke up with me bc i time and time again told him i wanted to move out of our college town and he thought he was doing the "best" for me by breaking up with me..needless to say,we were still in love and therefore,acted like a couple continuing to hang out on a constant basis and have done so for the past year,then one day he suddenly just stopped talking to everyone...no one knows what is going on with him...he talks to none of his friends,doesnt talk to me,his parents (yes sadly lives at home) will enable him to not talk to anyone by always claiming hes never there to anyone that calls,he hasnt checked his email/myspace/facebook in over a month now when usually he checks all three religiously..i just am curious as to why someone who act this way? anyone have any clues? some of his friends even stopped by his house,his car ws out front and his mom kept saying he wasnt there...WHY WOULD ANYONE ACT THIS WAY???

sidenote: one time his friend actually called their house and the X answered and said you have the wrong number...this is absurd...they've all been friends since 8th grade,very tight knit group..its just bizarre to me..this boy used to have to be the life of every party and thrived on attention..

Answer 1

first of all, i was going to suggest that he was hiding his infidelity but you already confirmed that theory.  not only do i think that he's hiding his being unfaithful to you and his lifelong friends, i also think that he's leading a double life.  let me run something by you and see what you think, okay?  i am almost 50 y.o. and i have been married four times with 4 major boyfriends throughout my life.  my point is, i have experience under my belt.  anyway, my first husband was acting strangely almost exactly like your boyfriend.  i wrote it off and divorced him after 15 years.  i later found out that not only was he hiding his infidelity from me, he also had another family, a common law wife and their child!  it all seemed to make sense to me later when i and the District Attorney struggled like no other to get any child support from him for our two kids.  another husband of mine-the fourth and the last-started out almost right away not talking to me, avoiding his brothers and his friends and so on just like yours.  so i decided i wasn't going to be made a fool of AGAIN, so staked him out.  yes, i resorted to sitting outside undercover and quietly watched him over a period of about two weeks.  you'll never guess what i saw...he was seeing not one but four different women and they were sisters, you know, two sets of sisters.  not at the same time, mind you, but alternately.  i also discovered that the was heavily into drugs--mainly crack/cocaine.  when i confronted him, he totally flipped on me.  needless to say i sued him for child support AND spousal alimony and he didn't have a leg to stand on.  one last thought, my last boyfriend about 10 years ago didn't know how to break up with me so i did it for him.  i hope this answer helps you out somehow or at least gets you to thinking about getting into the driver's seat as opposed to just being the passenger, so to speak...

Answer 2

He needs to get away. He is entering a crisis time in his life. His identity is defined soley by his friends and GF in this small little town. He has nothing else to define him, and whether he realizes it or not its eating him up inside. He needs to leave. Today. For better or worse. And when he comes back, he will be the man you remmember.

Write him a letter asking him to leave. For his own good. Push him away. He needs it. Trust me.