Why would a good guy friend act like he is interested but date other people?

Question

Ok, so I have this guy friend that I have know for roughly 2 years. We have always been really cool with each other, but unfortunately I developed some feelings for him somewhere along the way. Occasionally, he will hint that he likes me too, but not verbally. Plus, he is always dating other people. I think we have a good thing going for us, and he is also gonna attend the same university that I am already attending. Yes he is younger than I am, so is that a factor as to why he won't tell me straight up whether he likes me or not? Another thing, I have already told him how i feel about him and he had no reaction...he just kept on with our conversation like nothing. So after telling him that I liked him, I felt awkward, so I expressed to him that i would feel more comfortable if we would stop talking and stop being friends (just to easy the harshness of having to let go, instead of having to do it when I'm already in too deep) So when i told him that, he started crying! Ok so he won't tell me if he likes me or not, but he gets sad when I tell him that we can't be friends anymore. Is he just keeping me as a "plan b" kind of friend or does he really value our friendship and is it bad for me to hope for something more once he comes to the same school?

My apologies for such a long description, i just want to make sure I get a thorough answer that can help this heck of a situation. Thanks a bunch!

Answer 1

when he goes to ur school than ask him maybe hes not ready yet

Answer 2

aww, that's really complicated! why can't you stay friends with him if he was your good guy friend first?  he obviously really values your friendship, so that's why he started crying, and he may or may not like you as more.  If I were you, I would try to stay friends with him because he does sound like a good guy... maybe you two will start dating, and maybe you won't.  I know how much you must like him, but try to look past that and value your relationship as friends.  Try to just think of him as a friend and look for other guys, but maybe he will come around when you're at the same school... its cool he's chosen the same college as you.

Answer 3

Firstly, they obviously do have some kind of feelings for you. Otherwise they wouldn't have cried every time you tried to stop the friendship. Try talking to him and telling him straight out that you need to know how he feels and if there is any chance of anything ever happening.

If that doesn't work, try finding someone else to date. And if he gets jealous or angry in any way then you will know how he really feels. Also, if you haven't dated someone else before, then maybe he just thinks that you will always be around. If he find that you're with someone else, it may make him realise how much he actually appreciates you. It's the age old saying "you dont know what you've got until it's gone."