Why would a guy say this? He told me that he?

Question

cheated on his first wife (only after she cheated first, yeah right). They divorced. Then when he married wife #2 he said "I told myself I wouldn't do that [cheat] anymore."

Um, why do you have to "tell yourself" not to cheat? He could've made a mistake in marriage #1 or was so blinded by his hurt over being cheated on he went nuts for revenge ... But when he *told himself* not to cheat in marriage #2 doesn't it sound like he knew he had a likelihood of cheating (a roving eye)? If you are generally faithful you don't have to *tell yourself* not to cheat. Am I reading too much into his words?

Answer 1

You are reading to much into his words. It is a figure of speech. Perhaps it weighed heavily on his conscience and he couldn't deal with the guilt so he never wants to experience it again.

You could also ask him what his words meant. Having a conversation like this gives you insight into him and his character.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

It's a figure of speech.  "I told myself, I'm never drinking red wine on a hot day again ever!" means that I made that decision.

If he cheated in his first marriage, it makes sense that he'd make a conscious decision not to put himself through that h**l again.

Are you thinking you can make a liar out of him?

Answer 3

over analyzing

Answer 4

Apparently you are wife #2 so just make sure you won't cheat on him so he wouldn't have to get back at you.

Answer 5

you must be a little insecure because I really believe you are reading into that way to much....

Answer 6

You're not reading too much into his words, but you sure are making ton of excuses for his behavior.

Lose the loser.

Answer 7

Yeah you probably are reading too much into it.  

Answer 8

maybe you are reading too much into it!

i think that he meant something like, i tried to show her that if she could do it so could i and i didnt feel anybetter afterwards. so now i know that "revnege" doesnt make you feel better about the situation.

Answer 9

He has an issue with cheating...and he had to tell himself not to again so that he wouldn't do it again..... once a cheater , for the most part, always a cheater....  

Answer 10

i think you are. he was just emphasizing i think.

Answer 11

No seems he can't control himself and knows he will cheat eventually.

Answer 12

i believe in the old cliche once a cheat always a cheat.i guess if your friend has to talk about it he wants to convince himself that it 's ok for him to cheat again.scumbag