Why would a man sexually abuse his son?

Question

Please, I'm looking for something more than "he's sick and wrong". I'm trying to understand the deeper psychological motivations behind abuse. Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

Power

Answer 2

1) Maybe he was molested.

2) He has a chemical imbalance.

3) He was abused.

4) He had some kind of childhood trauma.

5) Molesters tend to be social outcasts and don't get along well with adults because they are emotionally immature.

6) Maybe he IS just sick, wrong and selfish. Maybe there are no other good reasons aside from this.

7) Keep in mind being g*y and being a pedophile are 2 TOTALLY different things! Many in fact, are in relationships with women. Some may not even be attracted to men their own age. Be sure to not confuse the two! Don't listen to people saying 'because he is g*y' as many g*y people will tell you, most of them are not pedophiles!

I knew someone who this happened to so I did some research on the subject. There are a lot of good sites out there that will help you make some sense of this. It was hard for me to make sense of it too! There are indeed similarities in a lot of these criminals. Finding some clues may help you at least identify people like this. More research needs to be done on "Why" and what we can do do identify or prevent children from being harmed. At any rate, best of luck to you, this is not an easy question to answer!

Answer 3

Every person gives what have received from others. If you receive love,you give love..... A man who abuse his son is probably a man who was abused. The sin pass generation by generation until it is redimeed with the precious blood of Jesus.

Answer 4

he may have been sexually abused himself.  there are many reasons why it happens. talk with a counselor, or call a dr to find more reasons

Answer 5

maybe his father did that to him 0_o

Answer 6

You know that there just may not be a great answer for you but I am going to give you my thoughts.  People have problems that we don't see on the outside necessarily.  These problems are in the brain.  It causes people to believe they are feeling things that with ordinary sensibilities they wouldn't.  They can't help it and this is what causes them to do the sick things they do.  Their brain has them convinced that it is what they want or maybe that it is alright.  

It has to be a chemical imbalance of some sort and maybe a phsychologist can explain it.  However, it is sick and wrong, but the predator's brain has convinced them otherwise.  I hope you find something to settle your curiousity.. Good luck...

Answer 7

because he was sexually abused by a male father figure when he was younger.

Answer 8

He was probably abused as a child himself.....he was probably a loner, although  not wanting to be.  He might not have had friends....had a poor self-image....and has been 'emotionally imploding' for years.

Answer 9

Sexual assaults are not about s*x. While rape is a sexual act, the motivation for a rapist is more aggression/dominance rather than sexual. Motivations are generally non-sexual behind child sexual abuse. All sexual assault is an expression of power, hate, and control. Child s*x offenders "make a claim to power" through s*x with a child, a less powerful sexual 'partner. It is also often times a cycle of continuation, meaning it was also done to the them.  It can be said that sexual behaviour with children allows a man to accomplish masculinity and overcome experiences of powerlessness when his power is in jeopardy.

Sexual violence is a major public health issue that creates devastating ripples in the fabric of society.  In particular, the sexual abuse of boys under the age of 18 is an invisible epidemic that has been dangerously under recognized socially.  Social constructs of masculinity and male vulnerability mask the issue and have led to a critically underserved population of sexually abused adolescent males in need of healing and support. It will take Not One...But Many to increase public awareness, education, and interventions to increase the health and wholeness of boys.

Why Some Kids Don't Tell?

Fear

The child may not know any better and think that sexual abuse happens to all children (offender may ‘normalize the victimization’)

The child may have been threatened to keep the abuse a secret.

The child may be afraid of being punished for doing something wrong.

The child may believe that what is happening is “my fault”

The child may be afraid of rejection, either by the parent or, in some cases, by the offender.

The child may be afraid of the negative reactions from friends and/or other family members.

The child may fear that people will treat her/him differently if they know about the abuse.

The child may be afraid of upsetting his/her parents and/or breaking up the family.

The child may be afraid that she/he may be sent away.

Break the Silence.

Answer 10

omg i dont know thats wrong but maybe he feels very bad has a low self esteem i dont know

Answer 11

he is a pedophile, and it's been proven that there is no cure for pedophilia, you simply have to accept that.  The man has to be kept away from all children, but most especially his son.  He has a twisted need to be dominant and have power, he uses sexual abuse of children to attain this objective.

Answer 12

idk but greek men used to do that to boys

Answer 13

"People abuse children for a variety of reasons, including a chance to increase their sense of power and a sense of pleasure. Those who abuse can become "hooked" on using children to achieve sexual arousal. They may seek children to sexually abuse because they have had a long history of sexual attraction to children or because they took advantage of an opportunity to abuse a child in their trust. They may have started sexually abusing because of their own abuse history or because they never learned that sexual abuse is wrong and is a crime. The earlier they get help, the better chance they have to control their impulses. "

Answer 14

because he is sick I was sexually abused >:(

Answer 15

maybe someone abused him and so he thinks he has to abuse his son.

Answer 16

maybe the father is g*y...and he doesn't want people to kno....and the closet person around is his son

Answer 17

Perhaps he was sexually abused himself as a child.  I do agree with the "he's sick and wrong" thought too.

Answer 18

It sounds terrible, but because they are an easy target. They have an attraction to the same s*x ( or likely its actually pedophilia so they like little boys). Their sons trust them for the most part and are easier kept quite. I mean it can be done in your own home so the child is too scared to tell because they actually live with their abuser. There is just less risk involved. It's also common for fathers who were abused in some way themselves to abuse their own sons. Why, I have no idea but it happens.

Its a terrible thing it really is. And BTW, those guys are sick and wrong!

Answer 19

cus there freaks.

Answer 20

most likely he was abused like that as a child himself. it will trickle down the generations if its not taken care of as a child to break the cycle. most of the time abuse like that happens generation after generation b/c the family is too embarrased to get help for it.

Answer 21

I think usually they have been mistreated by their own fathers, so they feel the need to take this out on their son.  

Answer 22

Either he was abused as a child or he just has some sick fantasy about it. Like some guys have fantasies about children, sometimes its girls, sometimes its boys. They look at child p**n and sometimes they act on it even with their own child.

Answer 23

Probably because he was abused when young.  Most ppl who were sexually abused as children do not abuse kids when they grow up.  A small percentage, however, do.  

Answer 24

Its ******* disgusting. I would be so proud if i grew up and i killed paedophiles like guys like that. I think its for power but its ******* sick. I hate people like taht. It makes my blood boil as you can see from my answer.

Answer 25

he wants to show the boy power and also wants the boy to please him maybe because the man doesn't feel good enough for woman. thats my guess. maybe own problems with his father