Why would a married man do this?

Question

If a 35 year old man is married and has a wife of 7 years but no kids with her.. why would he cheat on her? They make very good money and have a very nice house and cars and a corvette, but have kids of their own and came together as a blended family. I am just wondering why would a man with all that want to mess around with a 21 year old girl and risk losing all of it after being caught 2 times already but still continues on with the girl? Does this mean that he is not IN LOVE with his wife anymore, because I think if he was in love with her still, he would not do something like that. I am thinking it may only be for security reasons because he doesn't want to lose his corvette and the nice things he has, because they are not staying together for the kids because they have none together. I just dont understand it.... can you please explain to me why a man would do this and what the point is in staying with his wife is he cheats on her all the time?

Answer 1

I will put it bluntly and i will tell you this as a man...it's about old and new. Every married man in the world is guilty of wshing to be with someone else physically men are not robots, if you put jessica alba naked in front of every married man on the planet, 99.9% of them will want to hit it, regardless of what they tell their wives...unfortunately some  men fall to temptation  but every man is capable of it, there is no such thing " oh my man is in a good marriage he would never want to cheat" ....such thoughts are total BS the p***s does not recognize marriage.

Answer 2

It's easier to assume, he doesn't really love her, then to look at the deeper issues. Women who cheat on their husbands often say they love their husbands. The problem is that their husbands often miss something in their wives emotional needs. Men as well as women have feelings wouldn't you agree? Men need to have heartfelt respect from their wives. If a woman's husband receives that from her, he is more open to addressing her deeper emotional needs, and meeting them with heartfelt affection. Usually there are more underlying issues at hand in these situations. If they really love each other, and want to recover their marriage, they both need to get good marital counseling.

Answer 3

Put in it's most simple terms, His Wife Was Failing To Meet His Needs.

One of the biggest complaints I hear from my married acquaintances is that once she gets that ring the v****a store all but closes.

Answer 4

he was never in love with his wife, plain and simple

Answer 5

he just wants a change of scenery. with no kids, life could get boring. he's not being mean - he justs wants a new life but without intentionally hurting his wife's feelings.

Answer 6

Why would he leave? He gets the best of both worlds. His wife is not kicking him out or doing anything it seems to make it stop. And the mistress is giving him what he wants. He may love his wife but it is not unconditional love. I believe there are different levels of love and in this instance he has no repesct for his wife. She needs to leave him, she deserves better!

Answer 7

Just because they have no biological kids of their own doesn't mean they aren't staying together for the kids. They are still a family and have been for 7 years, 7 years those children have grown to accept eachother as they would any biological sibling.

Maybe he's reached a crisis in his life and is acting on it without thinking of the consequences...because he isn't in the mental state to. From personal experience, I've seen men flat out say...I wasn't myself, things in my life made me act like a person I wasn't. Why wouldn't he stay with his wife? Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? He's getting all he wants in this position. I recommend seeking professional help...a therapist could help you more than anyone on yahoo answers could ever. All I know is people do bad bad things and regret it later on and want to fix their mistakes. If he continues to cheat, he's probably looking for a way out and wants her to make the first move. If she doesn't make a move at all, he'll just continue doing what makes him happy without having any regard for anyone else's feelings. Maybe he isn't in love with his wife anymore but he'll never know if he doesn't try to get help for what's going on by someone who specializes in this sort of thing.

Answer 8

There's a third party involved here - the 21 year old mistress.  What's she getting out of this?  It sounds like she may be after his money as well.  Homewreckers like this are often shallow and greedy.  It's possible that she's taking advantage of him and using him for her own materialistic gratification and deliberately driving a wedge between him and his wife.  He's not the only one involved in the affair, and the younger woman is to blame as well, especially if she knows he's married.

It sounds like he's going through a midlife crisis and found a younger woman who is more than willing to take advantage of him.  He and his wife need to get into therapy and he needs to stay away from the mistress.  If they end up divorced, he may discover that his young thing doesn't want him if he doesn't have the Corvette and car and money.  Or maybe she's just into breaking up marriages.  But really - if they've been caught twice and she knows he's married, why is she continuing to mess around with him?  Why would any woman do something so low?

Answer 9

My grandfather cheated on my grandmum with royalty in England(not saying who). She found out and instead of leaving him, she held him accountable for everything he did. He never cheated on her again. They are still married and have been for 60 years! He was genuinely sorry for his sin and she forgave him. I think that because she did, he realized he loved her even more than he ever had.

Answer 10

He knows that if they divorce that she'll probably get half of everyhting. He probably still loves his wife but she's not satisfying him anymore. It seems as if this girl is only around because of the s*x. He doesn't have to answer to her or commit to her. Many guys dream of a younger girl liking them. They go through their mid-life crisis and instead of buying something outrageous they get a young girl to have s*x with. It makes them feel s**y again.

Answer 11

Assuming that they are not having infertility problems. All we can do is speculate. Men cheat for a variety of reasons. s*x, loveless marriage, excitement, power, you name it. A wife at least provides security, and security is an addicting feeling.

Answer 12

Some people say it's because the man is bored, but in no way does he have a right to cheat! He's an a**. That's my general opinion.

Answer 13

The human being is not a monogamous animal. This is very apparent if you view the vast amount of people who have extramarital affairs.

It is a natural human desire to mate with more than one person.