Why would a mom give her baby in adoption?

Question

if a women decides to have intercourse and doesnt use protection,she gets pregnant decides to have the baby.why give it in adoption u she already decided to have it .why can they have the courage to supported. why cant they think in the situation their putting the baby in .this is sad just to think of.

Answer 1

we are all humane and we do make mistakes, and yes you can still get pregnant even on the pill.  But at least the person who gave her baby up for adoption is thinking of the child, if she had kept it , it may not get the proper treatment it deserves or a loving Mother and FATHER, have you thought about that, you know the old saying 'people in glass houses shouldnt thow stones' unless youve walk in the same shoes as these young girls who have made this mistake, think of what you'd do in the same situation.  I don't think it right that young girls are participating in sexual activities. so don't get me wrong, but at least she is giving the child a better start in life and helping a couple who can't have children of their own

Answer 2

There may be many reasons as to why a mother decides to give a child up for adoption. Here are a few 1. for some reason at that point in life they can not provide for a child 2. the mother is unfit meaning she has a drug or alchcol problem. 3. She may be abusive. Of course reasons 2 and 3 are most likely decsions from the court. And the last reason is really not a choice but  sometimes the mothers parents force her to give up the child because the parents do not want the stigma of an unwed mother in their family. There are many reasons, and I would think all of them would be painful to the mother even if she is doing it because she wants the baby to have a good home.

Answer 3

B/c they think that someone can give their child a better life than they can & they probably don't want to abort.

Answer 4

I was adopted and i get where you are coming from, but my origanal mom had drinking problems and my dad was in jail. So sometimes it is in the best intrest of the kid.

Teara

Answer 5

yes, intercourse is necessary to have a baby. contrary to popular belief not all women / girls have consented to this. not all first moms will want the child to know this. most of these vulnerable women / girls may have every intention to have the babies and then something happens to where they don't have any emotional, physical, or financial support. i know of many guys who have bailed when they find out their girlfriend is pregnant. when you look at first moms and ask why? you really should look a step further and realize there's alot more then you realize. no women, in her right mind, would get pregnant, just to give it up for adoption. something happened, that made her choose the best of the worst choices. that's why we need reformation in the whole adoption area. moms need to have a safe place to go so those who wish to keep their babies, may do so. it's a crime to not give them this opportunity.

FYI....  i don't know of many cases where the child was not wanted. i think that's a really lousy thing to say. most of the women / girls that had the babies and gave them up, wanted the child. something during the course of the pregnancy happened that left them without any viable choice or they were brainwashed into believing that if "they REALLY loved their baby, they would give it to a couple (who is likely to divorce later) who could give the child everything they couldn't". ........... let's not forget the promise of the adoption being "open".

Answer 6

its sad to put the kid up for adoption?!

its worse for the mother to kill it... or to have the baby, but then neglect it because she doesnt want it.

at least if its adopted out, it has a loving family.  People who can provide for it, and give it a good life. A life that maybe the biological mom couldnt.

And anyways, protection doesnt always work. Werent you listening in s*x ed?   You're a little mis-informed if you think it's better for a baby to go unwanted, rather than up for adoption, and have a family that loves it.

Answer 7

I wonder the same thing. IRRESPONSIBILITY. But adoption is so much better than abortion so I can't complain to much.

Answer 8

There are numerous reasons a mother and father  puts their child  up for adoption. Adoption in my opinion can be very responsible if the parent(s) truly can’t give their child the best possible live. Most people who place their child are doing what they feel is best for their child.  Some people can say if they don’t want to parent they can abort, but there are many people who don’t believe in abortion. Every situation is different and I don’t think any birthparent should be judged negatively just because they did what they felt was best for their birthchild. Yes I do  know that some mothers are tricked or pressured into adoption but that is not the case for all birthparents

Answer 9

well hun. things happen and one thing caqn lead to another. puting a child up for adoption is much better than abortion. mabey the parents aren't in a good finical situtuation or mabey they aren't ready for a baby

Answer 10

many women who have these babies did use protection first of all.  Secondly what if the father left her while she was pregnant that happens all the time.  Thrid your argument of kids who's parents died is flimsy.  That doesn't happen to much anymore. Family  take the child in because he/she was already a part of the family.  I think it is a hard and selfless thing for someone to do. They could of had an abortion which is alot easier than giving your child up

Answer 11

Better than killing it.

But the first answerer sort of had the gist of it, you have to take a look at things situation by situation. In some situation perhaps when the baby was concieved the mother felt ready to have a baby and go through with taking care of it but in the 9 months perhaps something drastic happened in her life.

But a lot of it today is just sexual irresponsibility in western culture as a whole. I think that this 'protection' you speak of is partly to blame as it promotes a culture where s*x in general before marriage is commonplace. Hollywood also doesn't help the matter and promotes irresponsible sexual behavior in films and TV shows. Lastly homosexuals 'coming out of the closet' have degraded s*x to the point where it is no longer something special that married couples do to show their love for each other but an activity that any two people can decide to engage in no matter who they are.

So the three underlying reasons for the sad state in which a mother put her baby into that sad system of adoption are:

The promotion of condoms

Hollywood

Homosexuality

Answer 12

Adoptions occur for many reasons. Birth parents may place their child for adoption because they are unable to adequately care for the child, because they are have failed to receive the resources they need to parent, or because they are pressured by their own parents or others. Adoptive parents may wish to adopt due to infertility, compassion for adoptees and to avoid passing on inheritable diseases.

Answer 13

Because everyone don't believe in abortions. I would rather see someone give their baby up for adoption, then to have an abortion, or to have the child, keep it, and can't support it. Plus, there are many couples out here who can't have kids on their own and their only option is adoption. So not only is that mother making a smart decision in giving the child a better life if they can't afford to keep it, but they are also helping a childless person or couple dream come true.

It's not about having the courage to support it.

Answer 14

Sometime it the best thing for the mom and the child. Yeah they lay down and have s*x and when they get pregnant they don't want the child. So it to late so give up for adoption. I say that's better then kill them before the baby get here and when they are here. Some of these women are on drug, in out jail, don't have their life straight. So not why let people who cant have kids take care of them then their mother. Plus they also think the daddy is no good and he want help me and i don't want to do this buy myself. So if we get little more better men it will better