Why would a person adopting 'block' adoptees from answering his/her questions?

Question

There are some people who say they're interested in adopting a child. They seem to spend a lot of time here on Y!A, but 'block' answers from the people who might very well provide the most valuable insight: adoptees.

Why would they do this?

Answer 1

are you talking about your self? is some one blocking your answers?

if that is the case, i can say that i find your posts very one sided and on the verge of ranting.  you dont give opinions you preach

you are right and everyone else is wrong

that is not an exchange of ideas

now take your bat and ball and go home

imo

Answer 2

You know how ostriches stick their heads in the sand?  It's a lot like that.

Answer 3

I think it has to do with the fact that some adoptive parents see adoptees as having magical abilities to heal them.  They hold out this hope and resent those that might dash it.

I find this attittude very common but not universal.

Answer 4

I'm not 66 - but I wholeheartedly agree with the first answer from Jean.

Well said!!

That's why I gave a thumbs up for that answer.

That's what the thumbs are for people.

If you agree or disagree with the answer - you use the thumbs.

It's not rocket science.

Or some mystical thing.

It's about opinions - and that's what Yahoo Q & A is about.

Sheesh.

Great question.

:o)

Answer 5

Ha Ha!  I'm one of the banned ones!

It makes me giggle.

I also agree with Jean.  Some people wouldn't want to know the truth if it bit them on the nose.

Answer 6

I blocked two people who are high on the "best answers" answerers because when they answered my questions, I felt insulted, but not quite over the line of "being a violation." in other words, they were I guess patronizing and back-handedly insulting.

Answer 7

Some people just can't handle the truth. It messes with their rainbows and sunshine.

Answer 8

Because your not giving advice here..You have very one sides posts and absolutely zero interest in showing or helping others deal with their adoption or helping others prepare for their own upcoming adoption. Your only reason for being here is to rant and rave and contaminate the rest of us who desire to understand their own feelings and get ready to helping the children they plan on bringing into their homes.

Answer 9

it is my experience in 66 yrs of life that people who do not want to face facts; who only want to hear the positive to reinforce their unsupportable positions, block out any opinions, or truths, that do not match their own.  These people obviously are not suitable for adopting children or they would be using known, and proven, and legal adoption methods and would not have to discuss the matter on Y!A with only those who agree with them.

they need to adopt a therapist for a few years or analysis, but not a baby or child.  it is very sad they won't listen to an adoptee... they could gain a world of knowledge, expertise and experience and know what to avoid.  

Thank you for asking this question.

Answer 10

Definitely anti-adoptee

Answer 11

They either feel it's a biased opinion or they don't want to hear the truth.

Answer 12

I think they  are most likely blocking people who will be of no help. People who will just belittled them for adopting tell them to have their ‘own’ or keep trying for their ‘own’ or just go with out children after all its cheaper.  

What truth? All adoptees have different experiences you can’t tell someone that their adopted child is going to fall on one side of the spectrum or the other because you simple don’t know.  All any adopted parent or prospective adopted parent can do is prepare for any scenario.  Take me as I have said before I have had very little issues about being adopted I have no desire to find or located biological relatives. I am hoping to adopt one day.  I know that a future adopted child might not have my same experience/feelings/peacefulness over being adopted.

That they might have issues being adopted or want to seek out biological Relatives. I’m fine with that I respect not everyone falls on the same end of the spectrum. One reason I have started reading some experiences from other adoptees those like myself who have had no major issues and others who have. Because I want to be able to be a little prepared for any way a child that I might adopt one day would fall. Be able to help my child to the best of my ability or at least be able to understand their feelings a little.

Look at eyetwinkles on here who is looking to adopt. I think she done a great job of wanting to learn things that can help her adopted child, help that child be able to learn some of his or her  birth heritage. She has even said she would collect all the information she could on the child’s birthfamily/birthbackground  Despite this many people give her a thumbs down when she is just trying to do what is best for her future adopted child. See both sides of things, good, bad and in-between.   Most who give her thumbs down hate adoption or at the most infant adoption.  This poor woman should be praised, she is doing more then some parents looking to adopt will do.

Answer 13

I would say its ignorance on their part.

Answer 14

because they are afraid of the truth...adoptees(like myself)can tell them the truth about how the child will feel,what that childs emotion will go through when they find out there adopted....people like this carnt face the truth...they need to get there heads out of the clouds and come down to reality

Answer 15

Well, honestly I think Y!A may be more of a site for sharing opinions than for people really seeking information or researching.  So I'm guessing that a person might 'block' answers that conflict with their preconceived notions.  

It seems like some of us can dish it out better that we can take it.  That's just what it looks like to me.  I'm not an adoptee but apparently I offend some sensibilities here as well.

Answer 16

Sunny, it seems that this question is most likely directed to me..if not accept my apology for making that assumption, if so then I hope you will find my answer as being honest and open....but I will doubt that very much, because thus far I have been viewed as this terrible and evil person because I want to adopt an infant and I have a webpage (BTW, a webpage that offers NO money as I have been accused of).  AND because of that, NO MATTER what I say (unless I agree with you and some others),  my answers are seen as "dirt".

Let me also preface my answer with that I mean no ill will here, you asked....

I have blocked you and a "select" others because I find your answers to be very one sided, at times oozing with anger, at other times just ranting.  From others I have been bullied as well.  ALL because I want to adopt an infant in the US and I advertise online.  

I know you think that your opinions are helpful but if you gave them without sounding like you were preaching and that you are RIGHT because you are an ADOPTEE and that everyone else is wrong because they are not, leads me to be less interested in what you have to say.  That is not an exchange of ideas, which is what I am looking for.  You, and a select others, have this arrogance about you....even this question.......what makes you think I am NOT getting answers from people who know what they are talking about.  Some of the answers ARE from adoptees that know how to get their point across without shoving it down my throat and then kicking me when I am down.

When I came on this site I had only good intentions.  I came here to get my name out there that we are willing to be part of an adoption plan and to learn how to be a good "Adoptive Parent".  I want my future child to be able to have a great life and not get lost and become an angry bitter adoptee.  I thought that by coming on here and ASKING questions I would be able to get some help from those that have been adopted.  Well since being on here since August I have learned that there are some peple on here to only get their message across....."that adoption is bad and you need to look at foster care and if you dont listen to me YOU SUCK!" and then there are others who are more OPEN MINDED and willing to EXCHANGE ideas.

Why I decided to block a few of you...... After there were people who went on my webpage and tried to sabatoge my guestbook with EVIL messages  I decided that I had 1 of 2 choices.  I could leave YQ&A or I could block those that are not here to EXCHANGE info but are here to PREACH, INSULT, JUDGE and BULLY those that don't always agree with their views.  Since I did not want to leave and I have more to learn I decided to just block WHO I THOUGHT was giving me too much grief.  SO that included you....Perhaps if you were more open to hearing what  I have to ask and answer (and less insulting) then I would be more willing to hear what you have to answer as well.  But until then I will continue to block those that really have not taught me anything other than:  I BETTER be a good Adoptive Parent or I will end up with angry children that will turn into angry adult adoptees.

EDIT:  Even after reading some of these answers responding to what I wrote by people that I have blocked is simply............ case in point.  BTW I dont need the truth to "bite" me anywhere.  What truth are you talking about anyways......YOUR truth?  That is what it is, YOURS.  Dont you get it yet?  There are 3 sides to a story, yours mine and THEN the truth.  Its just too bad you can only see YOUR side, even with this question and my answer.......

BTW, I am being blocked by people too, I really dont care actually, doesnt make me giggle or quibble or even wonder why for that matter....................