Why would a woman do this to her husband?

Question

Why would a woman degrade, hurt, betray, humiliate and disrespect her husband by emotionally cheating on him with an online chat buddy, lie about it, break her promise to not do it again and then leave him for this online friend, get engaged to the online friend 2 weeks later and then say to her husband: "I'd like to be friends...Sometimes exes make the bestest..."

I understand that some of you may say, "she wasn't getting what she needed at home...." or something to that affect. But is that really justification to hurt him when he's not lied, cheated or abused you in anyway?

Answer 1

To answer your question as simply as possible, the reason she did this was because she was ONLY THINKING ABOUT HERSELF.  The fact that she left all of this damage in her wake is obviously not anything she was thinking about at the time and may never will (unless the online friend turns out to be a first class jerk).

There are givers and there are takers in this world.   If you put yourself last, everyone else will too. Unfortunately, it’s human nature to take advantage of those who let themselves be taken advantage of.  

And it makes no difference if it's a husband or a wife, but because women tend to be "givers" by nature, when a female cheats, it's harder to accept in our society.

Answer 2

Wow, it's sad that stuff like this actually happens.  But there WAS something she wasn't getting.  Even if it was just someone to pick a fight with.  You don't shop for milk if you own a cow.

(Myself, if I was unhappy in my marriage, I'd work on fixing it, not finding a new one!)

Answer 3

There is no respectable reason to do that.  I think it was wrong of her to do that.  I feel sorry for the husband.  I also feel for the guy that has her now because if she would do that before, she might do it again.

Answer 4

ok, I get the fact that your hurting, but you ask this question almost everyday and I dont know what you expect to hear.  if you are having this much trouble getting through this then there are people out there who can help your professionally.  I'm really worried about you actually as this is a very sad situation and I really hope you get through it and learn from it, but this is not the place to get the proper help and advice.  

Answer 5

Same reason why men do it.

Answer 6

I don't know why a woman would do this, it sounds awful. I wonder if there is more to the story. Regardless he is better off without her.

Answer 7

Because she's obviously a troll. She's done you a favour. You deserve to be with someone much more loving and loyal to you.  

Answer 8

I say she is a lying, cheating, w***e.  And that's what is one of the things that is wrong with this old world. I think that it is to easy to get a divorce.  Couples need to take there vowels seriously.  After-all you are making this promise before God and all of your family and friends.  It's really suppose to be meaningful.  It's actually like a job, it's hard work everyday.