Why would an exboyfriend of 17 yrs ago...?

Question

make a point to come up to you when you are out with your husband of 13 years and tell you (even though he screwed you over and hurt you) that the relationship you HAD ws real to him and he really did care? Whats the point? I had just finished dancing with my hubby and went to the bar and was approached by him. I was taken by suprise and simply looked at him and said "ok, thank you" and he seemed offended. I really wanted to say "Thank God for unanswered prayers". WasI rudeor is he justwierd?

Answer 1

people usually think over the years..if he screwed you over, he probably cant rest untill he lets you know that you are really valued as a person and that you were valued then. he knows ur married or else he would not have approached you then. he would have found a way to secretly tell you. just relaaaaxxxx he just wanted to be able to rest knowing that you know you are being valued.

Answer 2

im sure hez sorry about the way he treated u...n over the years had realised that u really meant smthg to him...y do u bother about him..dont give him a second thought..he doesnt deserve it.

Answer 3

guilt

Answer 4

most people don't always think the same way or remember things the same way. It was a long time ago and seeing you might have brought back "feelings" for you. OR maybe he IS weird and is one of those that likes the challenge of the "chase".  

Answer 5

You must live in some podunk town if you're still running across an ex from 17 yrs ago & hitting the same dance floors.  MOVE.  NOW.

EDIT:  No I didn't ask for the badge.  It was just given to me.  And you proved my point.  You FREQUENT the local Walmart?  Nice.

Answer 6

I would say he is a total *** and lucky you can now say he was an ex of many years ago...

Answer 7

Maybe he was hittin the bottle

Answer 8

he feels guilty, he wanted to make some kind of amends.  Maybe he's doing the twelve step thing

Answer 9

Yes, he's kinda weird but not exactly rude.

You were polite. You have had your bit of gloating satisfied now that you have announced it to the world.

And are you being rude to Annabel - the top contributor? Or just being yourself? A polite, smart, factual answer (sarcastic if you must) would suffice. No need to be freaking rude. Or is it weird?  

Answer 10

Two reasons. One he saw how happy you were and what he lost and started feeling regretful and need to make it better. Or he was just hoping you would respond and jump into bed with him.

Answer 11

One simple word:  guilt.

And possibly another simple word:  regret.

Answer 12

Think about it on the high road...

He may really have some things that he is working through and that may be one thing he feels like he needs to make amends about.  He may seriously feel that you were holding on to it and needed to let you know that he is sorry.  He see's you happy and wants to let you know he is happy for you.

Answer 13

After 17 years, he's STILL a jerk.

You didn't owe him anything-not even a remark.

Answer 14

I will chime in and say that part of his issue is jealousy. Obviously, he has no life if he hasn't moved on in 17 years.