Why would an old manager asked to give a reference tell my current manager I am looking for another job? ?

Question

I was approached by my boss who was told I was looking for another job. What now? ?

I was approached by my general manager yesterday who told me she knows I am interviewing for another job.

Fact is, I was called from a recruiter who presented a great opportunity for me and so I decided to pursue an interview with this larger provider.

I was offered a job that pays more than $10k a year than what I am currently making. I verbally told the new job I would accept it, but they needed to check some references from me so I presented them with 3 previous managers to contact. I also asked the potential job NOT to contact my current employer which they said they WOULD NOT.

Yesterday, I was approached by my current boss who told me she is well aware that I am actively interviewing and she had NO idea I was unhappy in my current job. I was NOT ready to hand in a resignation and I denied interviewing as i was put on the spot........ she told me she was told by a reliable source that I am interviewing and that she knows I am doing do. I told her I am always being approached by recruiters and I have listend to some of their offers, but for the most nothing has caused me to wish to leave at this time.

Truth be told I am still in the hiring process at the potential employer. I have not cleared the entire hiring process therefor not ready to resign at my current position.

WHO told my boss I am wanting to quit? She knows it's about the offer of $$ and my low salary where I am at. ( So it's someone who really knows the facts.. )

I emailed all three of my used references to ask them if they spoke ti my current manager and told them what she told me on the spot. I also made it clear that I was not 100% ready to resign due to waiting Human Resources clearance... which I did recieve later that day... I wanted them to know someone made it very awkward and on the spor for me. .....

What do I do now? Hand in my resignation on Monday? Do I telll them it's purely financial in the letter?

Answer 1

Hand in your letter of resignation.  It doesn't really matter how your current employer found out, they know its about the money and they aren't offering you any more, so s***w them.

You shouldn't have lied to your manager when she approached you, but I understand you were on the spot, and we've all been there.  I simply wouldn't be using them as a reference in the future.  I would also make sure that you find out who told your current employer, as they had absolutely no right to, and stop using them as a reference, or at least inform them that you felt their action was inappropriate.

Move on, and enjoy the new job!

Answer 2

DO you have the other jobb? Have you cleared all hiring processes? Are you ready to move on?  If the answer is yes, turn in yur resignation on Monday thanking the company for the opportunity to work there, you are and were happy in your position, however, another offer presented itself with a higher salary and therefore you felt you should accept the position.

Now yourdilemmaa. So your manager heard you were looking for another job? Big deal. There are many ways this could happen. One someone heard you talking, two, someone knows someone who knows someone, three, your calls and e-mails at work are fully monitored and you discussed this at work.

It really matters none, as it seems like your manager understandshowy poor the salary is where you are employed. You do not have to admit looking and your answer was excellent.  You could have also stated, anytime an opportunity occurs for me to make a better salary, I will consider it. I would really prefer to continue work here, but if the salary doesn't increase and I feel I deserve it, then obviously I will entertain other offers.

People like to talk, I doubt it was anyone at the recruiting place. Probably one of your references let it out to your current manager.  However, it is not really accepted to contact them and tell what happened, etc. This is very immature. You talk about it in person when you see them and just express amazement over the occurance.  Brush up on these things, it will definately pay off in the long run.

Answer 3

Stick to your guns.  You are being headhunted by another company and you have the right to look for a better paying job.  

Having ambition is not a crime.  I have left jobs that I was happy at simply because I had hit a glass ceiling where I couldn't get promoted until someone else quit.

$10,000 is a pretty big incentive.

Answer 4

Calm down.

Tell your current boss it isn't personal, but the job you are seeking pays 10K a year more.  Assure her that you are going to give her ample notice should you land the job.  And put your nose to the stone and work like crazy  because she's gonna be watching you from now on.

Good Luck!