Why would anyone want to keep their Ex husbands name?

Question

Mr. Morbid- For Corpsesucker I'd make an exception:) However if your ex's name is just "prettier" than your plain jane "Smith"....you are still a lamo. LOL

Answer 1

I was married for 33 years, at this stage of the game for me it's way to much of a headache to change the name, I do not need to go into details of everything, but it's up to the divorced person what they want to do, oh I filed for divorce, due to him cheating. And I'm not a lame person, far from it !!

Answer 2

It's to have the same last name as their kids.  What's there to get?  Not all women are itching to jump back in a wedding dress or get pregnant again.  It's just a name.  I carry my father's name and I never met him.  This isn't an homage to him- the name is simply mine.  Same with Barack Obama- his father abandoned him and now his name is plastered all over the country and on the tongues of millions.  The name belongs to Barack now.

I say if you can do something better with the name than the person who gave it to you, the other person is the one who's lame.

Answer 3

That is a personal decision and you not being that person have no right to an opinion on what another woman does. It is not about being lame or trying to hang onto that man, it is sometimes just easier for some. This is especially true for those families who have broken up but still remain a strong unit for the children. I know many families where the exes are friends and the children remain strong. Those women are about half and half with keeping their married names.  

Answer 4

Sorry to say but if I divorced my husband I WOULD keep the name.  Thats who Ive been for the past 6 years now and do you even understand the pain it would be to have everything switched over?  People still know you as that.  And yes cause my kids have it.  You obviously dont have kids.  When you talk to doctors, teachers or anything they automatically refer to you as Mrs. (kids last name).  It would stay that way till I remarried if I ever did.  So dont get pissy about something you have NO IDEA about.  Get put in those shoes first and carry a name for an extended amount of time.  Then lets talk.

Answer 5

You sound like you are jealous of an Ex....LOL!

And guess what?  When I divorced the CHEATER, I did keep his name because it was the SAME as my sons-  why should I change it?  To appease some stupid girlfriend?

I am laughing my azz off over here!  LMFAO!!!!

Answer 6

Who cares...It was a last name assumed during marriage it doesn't mean that you have to change it back.  With the divorce rate the way it is everyone would be changing their name multiple times.  I say if your happy with your last name keep it...if not change it.  Free country.  Do what is right for you.

Answer 7

How LAME are you to judge people whose situation you are not even remotely familiar with? What if the two people agreed upon keeping the same last name? You know what? F*ck the what ifs. It's none of your d@mn business! It's not hurting you so jump off that pedestal! BTW, not married, never been, just don't care what other ppl do!

Answer 8

thats why im not changing my name when i get married, none of the women in my family did..it just doenst make sense to!

Answer 9

I beg to differ lamebrain...I happen to love my husbands last name on me, it's who I have become. We don't have kids & I am woman enough to keep that name and let go of the marriage. Everyone is not like you, though if we had as many ex's that you've had, maybe we'd have a wider selection. Plus, I'm a lady...I don't "p**s".

Answer 10

My gosh lady to each is own.  You are getting way to upset over such nonsense.  I kept my ex husbands last name only because I was a cook/teachers aid at my child's preschool.  I thought they would call me Ms Brown but instead they called me by my first name lol.  If the woman wants to keep the last name well it is her decision.  I am now remarried and now go under my husbands last name.  It is just a name.

Answer 11

Cupcake I am very glad that you realized that the reason some people heave to retain their last name is for professional reasons.  I married my wife last May and she wanted to keep her exes last name for professional reasons.  She is a pretty well known artist in this community and so we agreed that she would hyphenate her exes last name with my families for a year then drop the exes.  This is exactly what happened this May.  We were actually at an art exhibition last month and I was very proud to see her name printed correctly.  It was not just an ego boost, although it didn't hurt my feelings at all.  I love this woman and we discussed her changing her name and had a good heart to heart regarding it.  Her two daughters, both mature and grown women of their own were very upset believing it would separate them more if she took my name.  She is very close too these two and explained that she is no longer a ****, her exes last name but still is their mom.  She went on to say that she loved me very much and was proud to change her name to mine, another good boost for the old ego.  Just kidding.  So that is why I can agree with this happening the odd time, but to remarry and keep your exes last name what type of message is being sent to your new husband.

Answer 12

What if her maiden name was one she didn't like (such as Corpsucker, or w***e) and she kept the married one until a better came along? I actually know people who did this...

Answer 13

It's a freakin' pain in the tochis to change your name. I've done it 3 times (married, back to maiden, married again) so after my 2nd divorce I didn't change it. It didn't move me anywhere in the alphabet so I had nothing to gain. My father was a jackazz so my maiden name holds no sentimental value.

It's not LAME at all nor a desire to cling to an ex that I left over a decade ago, and haven't seen or heard from since the day we sold our house after the divorce (and I'm kewl with that).

Don't be so quick to judge chickie...there are various reasons for not going through the tedious c**p of contacting every one on the planet when one changes their name. What's LAME is anyone else having an issue with someones personal choice (that harms no one). ☺

Answer 14

If you want to use your maiden name after a divorce that is fine but you don't need to offend a woman that chooses to keep here ex husbands last name.There are alot of reasons besides just to kids.It is a lot of time and trouble to change the last name on all the things you need to change the name on.Some of these things it cost money to have the name changed on and I am talking several hundred dollars,such as deeds to land or homes.An attorney has to do this kind of thing.You have to change the name on all credit cards,ss card,drivers licenses,car titles,insurance policies,insurance policies,etc.....

Answer 15

Some women simply LIKE their new name better. My brother's ex-wife kept his name after they divorced; she is now remarried, but chose to still keep his name - she likes the way it sounds, that's all (they don't have any kids together). I don't think there's a sinister motive behind it, they've been divorced for many years. It is true that for many people, the name change is full of symbolic significance; but for others, it's more of a practical matter. "I like the name, therefore I keep it" type thing.

Answer 16

Are you married?  Have you ever tried to change your name?  It takes months to get all of that sh*t taken care of.  As far as the kids go, unless you have them and are facing the decision to change your name and not theirs--well I guess you have no idea about that either.

My guess is that you are a girlfirend/second wife and are bitter about the ex.  Let it go. . .

Answer 17

If it doesn't affect you why are you so pissy pants?

I changed mine when it was time to change my documents like my new drivers license. Its a pain in the rear,and then ever since 9/11 its harder to do.

Answer 18

Nope - I changed my name the day I got divorced.  I have 2 kid's from my ex and one with my new husband so my 2 kids have a different name and I have full custody.

Answer 19

That is an easy one! ! !

You keep his name to p**s off all of his future girlfriends!  Make sure you call his home when you know the girlfriend is there and leave your name real loud on the answering machine and make sure you speak clearly on the last name! ! ! ! !

Answer 20

a person would want to keep the ex's name because they like the name or because it would cause a great deal of confusion to change it.

Answer 21

I am divorced with children and chose to resume my maiden name after divorcing.  I don't, however, carry a giant chip on my shoulder because some women choose to retain their married name.  It really doesn't matter to me what name a divorced woman uses.  It's their choice, just as it is yours.  Get over it.

Answer 22

Just because someone makes a choice that's different from yours, doesn't automatically make them lame... Get off of your high horse.

I personally think it's lame that you would want to change your name to begin with; I hope to find a woman who is proud of her family name just as much as I am proud of mine - why would she need my name at all? Why did you feel the need to take your husband's name? What was wrong with yours? To each their own. Women who have kept their ex's names have probably given it more thought than you ever have.  

Answer 23

mostly, it is for the kids

if she remarries - the children of this issue would of course have their father's name.

It is the new husband's option whether or not he wishes to adopt them{the former spouse's child(ren) }and give them his name - or as I'm sure you know - son(s) of the former spouse usually want to keep their father's name - out of respect for their Dad in a lot of cases.

Girls of the house - doesn't really matter - because we will take our husbands names - and no matter (at this time - how many men you've gone thru as spouses) we are still our father's daughters and his last name is the last name we have on our final destination  (the grave) on this Earth.

Answer 24

I kept my second husband's last name because I liked it and because I had so many separate business deals, passport, and things with that name on them that it was just easier.  Certainly not keeping a connection, I didn't see him again after the divorce.