Why would fostering be better than adoption?

Question

I know that in the USA things are more "contraversial" with reguards to adoption. I have been told its all about money. (puke)

Anyway, I just want to know how people think that fostering is better for the child? I have a best friend who was in foster care, and all the way through his life, he was moved on and on to different homes. He was never given a family and has never called anyone mum or dad.

In my opinion, fostering isnt stable for a child at all. The foster parents must get attatched also, and it must break their heart when one of the kids are leaving. How is that beneficial to the child?

I am not against fostering by the way, before anyone starts on me.

I just think it like a temporary home.

Answer 1

you can adopt a foster child. we take in foster infants. when one is available, we'll adopt 'em.

we want to be there for them and help lay a healthy foundation. i stay home with them and give lots of attention/love.

it's not better for them, but it happens and people are needed to help!

Answer 2

I agree with you.  I think what people are referring to is that the kids in foster care deserve to be adopted first, rather than ignored  and overlooked  in favour of obtaining a baybeeeeee at all costs.

Answer 3

For some reason it seems to adoption is getting a bad name here- and I cannot figure it out- not that some adoption experiences are not good- any more than any biological family is always good or bad either. I agree if a child is never adopted she/he can go from home to home, and where is the stability there- I felt very secure being an adopted child- and before some people give me 10 thumbs down, listen to what I said= I had a good secure home life as an adoptee- and my children are adopted as well, and so have they.  A foster home is good, do not misunderstand me, especially if that child has a chance of going to live with his/her birth family again- however if that child is going to be passed between families until they are 18- no way-  that cannot be good on the child.

Answer 4

I haven't seen anyone suggest that being passed around from foster home to foster home is better than being adopted.  I have, however, seen lots and lots of suggestions to people that adoption should focus more on getting children stuck in foster care into adoptive homes.

I don't see much of adoption, in and of itself, getting a bad rap, either.  I do see many people who want to see changes in how adoption is **legislated** and **practiced** in the U.S.  These issues have nothing to do with whether or not someone had a "bad" or "good" adoption experience in their adoptive homes.  Plenty of people who have great relationships with their adoptive families would like to see changes in the system and laws that run adoption.