Why would he say this?

Question

My husband and I have been married for about 2 years and we have been having some problems that we are working on. He can't let go of the past, we are having another kid, him conversing with other women, me not being able to trust him, and thinking that I am going to cheat on him ( personally I don't fight fire with fire). All of this we are working on and I must say that it is getting better. But yesterday, he told the therapist that he doesn't trust any woman and he never will. But Why would he marry me if he didn't trust me? When I married him, I trusted him but within everything that he has done I lost all trust for him. But I thought that we were working on it. I don't get it!! What do you think?

Answer 1

I have trouble trusting people as well, but basically, here's my stance...

He has trouble trusting woman in general. However he trusts you more than any other woman, but not enough to really trust you.

Answer 2

Isn't it obvious? His mom. She did it to him.  Didn't hug him enough.  Gave him up to his father in following that old adage a boy for daddy and a girl for mommy.  Ignored him as an adolescent in order to "make a man out of him".  Who knows?  But it was definitely his mom. Mothers are always to blame.

Answer 3

when i was younger my sister used to say:  "sometimes boys say they love you, and they really do love you, but only at that minute they said it" - your husband married you because he wanted to believe in marriage.  he became disappointed when he learned that things aren't they way they were in his mind.  so yesterday, he felt like he could never trust a woman.  if you asked him again today, it might irritate him and he'll say the same thing again.

i think that's just the way he felt at that time he said it.  try to be patient.  you and your husband are on the right track to reconciliation. it's too easy to give up now.  just keep at it - it'll work out.  

Answer 4

He has past issues. Not everything is about you. If you internalize every single thing that is wrong with him/the relationship, you're going to be miserable. If you aren't already. Sometimes, people just have "stuff" to work through. And sometimes it has to do solely with THEM and isn't dependent upon us as partners to fix or to take blame for.  

Answer 5

some men have just had bad expieriences with women and they make excuses he married you so he should trust you

Answer 6

i know is hard being pregnant and all and going through drama and like the old saying where their is no trust theirs no love is so true... you need to deal with this situation by giving him time moving out for a few weeks to your parents or a girl friends house to make him realize how things are like a friend told me a man doesnt realize what hes lost until he losses it.

Answer 7

Alot of times men turn to porno to lash out at women somehow to get back at them for doing something to them. Just be patuient pray for him and time will heal. I will pray for your marriage.

Answer 8

It's not you it's just his opinion heck I love my husband but I don't trust any man women or anyone 100% except myself. It doesn't mean I don't love him or trust him at all it just means I am not going to play the fool.  

Answer 9

talk to him about it.