Why would his wife want him?

Question

My boyfriend and I were together for over 2 years - we planned our lives out together. I got divorced, then as he was going through his, his wife found out about us and now won't let him go, holding the kids over him, threatens suicide - he says he can't leave and won't even talk to me!! It's been 3 months! It's killing me! What do I do?

Answer 1

She loves him. He loves her. You were his little fantasy.

Although I agree, why would his wife want to hang onto someone who will cheat on her again and again? He would have cheated on you, too. As you, no doubt, would have cheated on him. But don't worry, there are plenty more husbands who are not getting enough acton at home - you'll find another soon.  

Answer 2

I would move on fast and furious and get a new life and a new plan with some one this was all based on fantasy not reality.

Answer 3

He said he can't leave, which means he won't leave and the fact you haven't heard from him in 3 months..HELLO. How much more clear can it be ? Besides he will always have a relationship with her b/c of the children..do you really want the drama in your life..it will NEVER go away.  

Answer 4

That KARMA calling you a w***e! Why were you with a married man in the first place? And how do you know she's doing all these things? Maybe he doesn't want to be with you so he's telling you these things!! Go find a single man & leave the married ones alone!!

Answer 5

  thats what u get for cheating.

Answer 6

Well you shouldn't be messing around with married men in the first place and cheating on your own spouse.  

Answer 7

why would you want him

he cheated on the woman he promised to love and respect

now your wondering

will he leave me for a bimbo and never love and respect me

makes you stop and think doesn't it

Answer 8

Home wrecker

You should just date people who are single,

Or do like a normal person and get a divorce before you started dating other married people.  You really need to check yourself and think how you would feel if you were in his wife's shoes.

But of course you won't because you're probably some narcissistic lady yourself.  Anyway, just wait till this "love of your life" cheats on you.  Obviously if he doesn't care of the mother of his children, why would he care about you?  There is a major difference between lust and love.

Answer 9

You snuck around with a married man and his wife found out and he cut you off. He wasn't your "boyfriend" he was a married man you was having an affair with. My husband did the same thing he was having an affair with a co-worker for 3 years and when i found out about it he stopped everything with her. You say you have a broken heart you don't no what a broken heart is lady and i use the word lady loosely. A broken heart is when your husband of 17 years goes behind your back and sleeps with another woman that's a broken heart. Women like you make me ill. Get your own man one who isn't married and stop being so d**n stupid when it comes to married men.

Answer 10

Maybe you should have thought about this when you first realized your "boyfriend" was a married man. Most married men intend to stay that way, no matter what they tell their girlfriends. If it's been 3 months, I think you've lost this one. It's too bad that sometimes love is so blind & we have to learn the hard way.

Answer 11

She might not even know about you. He is pulling what most of them do. He can't leave because of the kids or she will kill herself. If that where true he could leave and take the kids because they would be unsafe with her. Open your eyes girl.  

Answer 12

Maybe get a life and find your own man???????

psst..........and he's lying to you about why he won't leave his wife!

Answer 13

You should not be involved in the first place, he is married. What should you do? Find a man that is single!

Answer 14

Cut your losses.  He has no intention of leaving his wife and probably never did.  The pasture always seems greener on the other side, but when you look closer, its full of cow dung.  You made a very bad choice, learn from it.

Answer 15

get over it and move on.  he obviously still has feelings for her.  that's the bummer of being with someone else's man....and yes, regardless of what you think he's still her man.

Answer 16

He lied> cheated>Has no respect for you or her> And you believe him when he said he would leave his wife>

So know your devorced> Alone wanting a cheater> Sorry move on and date single guys>At least we can't use the line I will leave her for you>

S&H

Answer 17

  Find someone else. He's already made his mind up between the two of you. He folded under the pressure.  

Answer 18

walk away from this c**p till he is truly free.