Why would my 8 year old daughter want me to get an ear pierced?

Question

For my birthday, she bought me a small hoop earring. I was a little puzzled and asked her why, since I don't have an ear pierced. She said that was the other half of my present and gave me a Claire's gift card.

I feel guilty, she has spent over 2 weeks pocket money to give me a present she feels would be special, and while getting her ears pierced a few weeks ago meant a lot to her, having an earring holds no attraction for me.

I can't understand why she felt I would think it was a good idea, or why she would spend that much money on something like that without asking me first, but I am left feeling so guilty about my "unwanted present".

Answer 1

Mabye she wants you to be like her.Anyway,its the thought that counts.

Answer 2

I don't see a problem of it... In my country parents put earrings  at baby girls ears a few weeks after they are born. I have pierced ears since I was 2 months old so that mean I'm wearing an earrings for all my life.

P.S.

I approve that if you have one earring on a ear and not 2 or whole ear with earrings

Answer 3

I think it might be a hint Mum.  I wasn't going to let my daughter get her ears pierced until she was 10 but my girlfriend talked me into surprising her at 8.  So many of her friends had them done that I caved in.  I am glad now she is 10 and they look nice and it gives us all another present to buy her.  Your little girl put some of her own wishes into your gift, maybe you could transfer the gift to her and pick out something more suitable for you together.

Answer 4

Maybe you could ask her....

Or get your ears pierced.... You may find you like it.

Answer 5

That's a tough one. I think that you shouldn't get your ears pierced out of guilt. If you don't want to, don't do it or you will regret it. Just tell her thank you for the thoughtful gift and hopefully she will forget about it.

Answer 6

Have you noticed how many 8-10 yr old boys have pierced ears?  Your daughter probably thinks that it is a trend that most "guys" want to do.  Because she relates to her peers and their behaviors, she probably feels that she got you a really cool gift- something that your parents would have never allowed, but that you always wanted....  I woud use this time as an opportunity to point out to her that being cool doesn't mean always doing what "everyone" else thinks is a good idea.  She can be reminded not to comprimise her values and beliefs just to be cool with the latest trends.

Answer 7

That is lovely! She probably was so happy about having hers done that she wanted you to feel that happyness to - very sweet!

You cant just do it if you dont want to..... do you really not want to? Maybe you could try.... you might like them... you can take them out after a while and let them grow over.... why dont you want them done - is it just that you never really thought about it??

If you decide not to then you can take her out for 'coffee' and say that it was such a thoughtful present and that you love her so much for being such a thoughtul kind girl and that is why you wanted to take her out for a coffee (icecream/fluffy/cola) to let her know how special what she gave you was not becuase of what it was but what it represented.

You have decided that it isnt really for you having you ears pierced but you didnt want the present to go unrecognised and so thats why you have taken her for 'coffee' and wondered if she would like to keep the earrings. Then would she help you spend the Claires gift card on a piece of jewelery that you would be happy to wear and keep close to you?

She would have earrings to remember the special talk and day you spent together and you would have some jewelery that you are more likely to wear (you could even get coloured beads or something and hang them somewhere in your room - on your mirror or something, if you dont want to wear them choose colours of beads that remind you of her and her kind and special nature.

She might understand that way and enjoy the time spent you and her talking and planning together. The beads would always be a reminder of her lovely thoughtful gift and you can avoid getting holes in your ears (and a hole in your heart from the guilt!)

Good Luck :)

Answer 8

just do it.  I have mine.  ^ weeks of healing and a happy daughter.

Answer 9

Maybe is was symbolic present... maybe it meant something else.

Answer 10

I agree with cupboard. That really is very sweet of her. She loved her ears so much she thought maybe you would love the same! Oh I think my husband would have got a huge kick out of this. He had both his ears pierced in high school, though- so he would probably try to push it through. (Oh that would be lovely on a business man! LOL kidding)

What you can do is take it to a jewelry shop and have the post attached to a necklace chain or embedded in your favorite watch. Show her what you've done with it and tell her although you don't want or can't pierce your ears - you truly loved the gift and will always cherish it.

This will be something you can both look back at and laugh and laugh when she is grown.

What a nice little girl you have, BTW.